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The Power of Correcting Your Flaws [Personal Growth]

A lot of us who are into psychic development are also interested in working on ourselves. We’re on the path of transforming into better versions of who we are. A lot of that means healing wounds from the past and forgiving people who’ve hurt us. It also means understanding why we go through things, seeing patterns, and healing them. Ultimately, our goal is to move into a place in life where things are easier, happier, and more peaceful & authentic.

Personal transformation through healing our flaws

One of the things I’ve personally found useful in this is to see where we are flawed, and to work to adjust that. Few of us like to think about the aspects of ourselves that are unpleasant, but it’s a great place to transform.

Here’s a personal example of that. A while ago, I worked with a wonderful energy healer. He very gently told me that I am always pushing, pushing, pushing, holding on to hard and forcing my way through life. He pointed out that I tend to make things harder for myself than I need to.

He was right! Since my very conception, I’ve been fighting my way through life. As I was growing in my mother’s womb, I was in an environment of cancer. She found out the she was pregnant and that she had cancer on the same day. It was Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, a dangerous and aggressive cancer that coursed through her lymphatic system as I was growing inside. I was a miracle baby. They told her it was madness to try and carry a child to term under those conditions.

My expectation that life is difficult is based on my personal experiences, but it also holds me back. It creates too much stress. And, I was starting to create a chip on my shoulder! I am a Pisces, a natural dreamer whose ideal state is one of relaxation and gentle flow. When I’m out of alignment with that, my body feels it, too, and stress symptoms like TMJ and elevated cortisol start popping up.

The Healing Process

Now that I’m aware of what I’m doing, I’m working to shift it. I’m more mindful of my thoughts, and actively look at ways I can relax and make things easier. I’m starting to delegate at home. My son is 8 years old now, and I don’t have to wait on him hand and foot. He can get his own sparkling water from the fridge, and open the blinds. It’s good, and it gives him something to do that builds his confidence. I’m also working on asking for help when I need it. It’s different, but I’m learning to figure it out.

Whatever character trait you have that is flawed can easily be worked on. It doesn’t have to be challenging. The whole goal is to make life easier and happier for yourself. And dropping patterns that aren’t healthy, or that make things harder for yourself, will pay off tenfold. Ultimately, bringing flaws to the surface and working to transform them will only make life more enjoyable.

I hope that makes sense. Thanks so much for reading and watching!

How to Tell the Difference between a Past Life Memory and an Ancestral Inheritance

This week’s topic was prompted from a question by a viewer, who asked how to tell the difference between a genuine past life memory, or something that you inherited from your ancestors.

I thought that was a great question!!! And it’s a bit tricky, because so much of who we are is informed by our family, ancestors, and the people we grew up with in general. In some cases, we reincarnate into the same family, so we get hit with a double whammy of past life and ancestral traits/memories/vibes.

The funny thing is, if your goal is to clear the energy, it doesn’t matter if it’s ancestral or not. The clearing work is still similar. A classic ancestral case: let’s say you notice a pattern in life where you have bad luck in men. So you look at your family, and realize your mom had issues with men, as did your grandma, and her mother too. It was as if this issue was passed down through the generations. Once you have that sense of where it came from, you can do the clearing work to heal the issue, to break up the energy, and to shift things for the better.

If you had instead discovered that you were not attracting the kind of guy you want to be with because of a past life issue, you would do deep inner work to clear that energy as well. So, to be fair, both situations require a type of clearing and resetting.

The work to do this is fun, though – because it’s positive, it’s beneficial, and it’s effective!

To speak to the main point of how to distinguish a past life from an ancestral pattern, here are 3 ways to figure it out:

1. Look at what you LOVED as a child.

This is one of the biggest clues as to who you were in a past life. Did you constantly draw pictures of 18th century French ballgowns, like me? Or were you obsessively into the mechanics of WW2 warships, planes, and battles, like my 10 year-old nephew? No-one in my family had the same passion for French ballgowns, and no-one in my nephew’s family is as obsessed with WW2 as he is. I venture to suspect that both of us had past lives during these eras.

2. Do Past Life Regressions!

This is pretty easy, but a past life regression, either with a professional or on your own with a guided hypnosis, will absolutely give you clues as to who you were in past lives. Past life regression therapy definitely helps you to understand issues you are dealing with in this life that originated in your past.

3. Study your Family.

Another very easy way to tell if you are dealing with ancestral energy is to look at your entire family, and those that came before them. What struggles did they have that you are having now? What were their lives like if you go further back in time? What beliefs and practices do they have that you are struggling with, too?

The understanding of the origin of issues is somewhat intricate. I have seen both, and I would say many of us do have both to contend with. Fortunately, both roads lead to a similar type of healing and clearing work.

Do you have an awareness of who you were in a pst life? How about ancestral patterns? Please share them in the comments below if you are watching on YouTube. Thank you!

Soul Mates Who Force You to Grow

Do you like Disney movies? I do! And the new ones they are making, like Mulan and Frozen, are so empowering for young people. I love that. Older movies, however, like Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty, conditioned many of us to believe something not altogether positive about soul mates and life partners.

I hear a LOT about what people go through doing intuitive work. The most prevalent is the belief that a soul mate is someone with whom you will have a match made in heaven and live happily ever after.

When that doesn’t happen, some people become very upset. A common question that comes up in readings is, “Why did this happen?” and “Why did (or do) I have to be with this person?”

One of the clearest explanations that I have discovered that answers this dilemma is that there are soul mates who are fun and wonderful, and there are soul mates who teach challenging life lessons.

The more we understand that, the clearer we can be about who we are, and what we are here to learn. Some of the most triggering soul mates force us to grow, to resolve karma, and to heal ourselves. In many cases, they force us to heal from the pain we went through because of them!

If you are in a situation where it’s not a walk in the park, but you are bonded with that person, one of the best things you can do is ask how you can grow from the situation. If you look for the lesson and the gift, you’ll start to discover what patterns and cycles need to break so that you can ultimately get to where you want to be in life.

For some people, a realization that they don’t need to stay with a pain-causing soul mate is a part of that lesson. They can then forgive the person, forgive themselves, and move on. Spiritually speaking, this is more empowering than feeling the energy of anger and hatred, then parting ways without working on forgiveness and understanding.

I understand how tormenting it can be to be with someone who causes you pain. I have counseled people who have been through hell and back in relationships. Sometimes, however, the person who causes the pain is really a powerful, loving teacher in disguise. A foil, if you will…and on the other side, the spirit is indeed a true soul mate and friend.

It would be wonderful if we didn’t have to suffer. But in some cases, being with the perfect companion can cause us to be complacent and comfortable. While many teachers say we are here to be happy, I believe we are here to learn, grow, and evolve.

A person who prompts you to look within and do the work to transform, even if that transformation means standing up for yourself and leaving the situation, is truly a catalyst for growth. If we can think of things in these terms, we can more easily understand situations that we don’t love, but that are asking us to grow.

Gnomes and the Fairy Folk

This week’s message is a little more out there than usual! It’s about gnomes and the fairy folk, and whether or not they are “real.”

I have never seen a gnome, elf, or fairy in person, but I would love to. I got the idea for this topic because I did a session with someone who had seen gnomes as a child.

Fun fact: I LOVE gnomes, I have the classic gnome book by Rien Poortvliet, I used to make gnome t-shirts and onesies for babies, and my son was an adorable gnome baby for his second Halloween, chubby cheeks, pointy red hat, and all.

When I exclaimed in delight over her gnome sighting, the readee corrected me, and said they were mean and scary! She remembered that they didn’t like her, and she ran away. I tuned in psychically, and what I saw was that the gnomes themselves were terrified. Here was this human coming into their territory — so they made themselves look angry in order to scare her off. They didn’t know if she was going to come back with an adult or an evil kid who would throw rocks at them, stab them, or capture them and keep them in captivity. So they disappeared after that, and she never saw them there again.

I hoped that seeing this would help her trust that it wasn’t personal, and that gnomes are not, traditionally speaking, mean creatures.

I loved the whole exchange, because I strongly feel that the more we keep an open mind, the better. Everything has a spirit, and everything is energy. There are spirits in the trees and spirits in the water. Why wouldn’t there also be elementals and nature spirits, fairies and elves as well?

And of course they would live far out in nature, away from us, because we are a destructive warlike race. And it would be second nature for a human to see a fairy, tell a friend, capture it, and dissect it, just to prove it’s real. We like to capture things and put them in cages for our amusement.

The magical creatures are smart enough to avoid us, and we, in turn, pretend they do not exist.

The further we go back in our lineage, the more likely we are to hear stories of our ancestors seeing them. I love fairytales and myths and fables, because in all of these ancient traditions, there are vivid stories about the little people and the fairy folk. Why did these tales originate? They came from somewhere! And they are so prevalent!

Have you seen magical creatures in this lifetime? Or do you have stories about your ancestors seeing them? If so, please share in the comments below if you are watching on YouTube!

Thanks so much for reading and watching!

Energy Healing: Keeping the Ego in Check

An idea came to me not too long ago, and I wanted to share it with you.

In a nutshell, it’s this: if you do energy work, whatever type of energy you practice, at some point, you will want to flow that energy to the people you love so that their conditions improve.

When you do that, it helps to hold a state of mind of pure love and altruism. Not expecting thanks, not expecting acknowledgement. Just sending the energy so that they get better. Once you establish that state of mind, you are more free to just let the energy flow.

This notion came up because I’ve been deeply involved in Bengston energy this year. It’s a great energy, easy to do, and super fun. The best thing is, it works wonders on the physical body. There are groups of us who work together to heal one another, and our loved ones.

You always have to get permission from someone to work on them, so the person knows you’re doing it. It’s amazing how many people need healing, and how quickly a list of people who need help can grow. I started out with one loved one in mind, and suddenly I had a pack of 20-30 people I’m doing remote healing on. The energy gets stronger if you do a bunch of people at once. I as thinking about it, and realized I may not know if some of the people I’m working on improve. And that’s OK. It’s not about my knowing or hearing; it’s about something much bigger than me.

The expectation of receiving some sort of acknowledgement is a strong one. It’s only natural! But if it comes from a void or a need for the ego to be stroked, it’s not positive and can in fact be detrimental to the work.

Keeping the ego in check is critical in most endeavors in life. And being in a state of pure love for the people you’re flowing energy to, thinking only of their improved health, is key. Otherwise, you can start to feel resentful, which is not pleasant at all.

It’s wonderful to hear when someone is better, and to feel that gratitude and extreme joy. In our healing groups, we cheer for one another and are so happy when we hear good news. It’s a collective effort, all of us as one group field helping to create change. That vibe is amazing, because whenever someone tells a story of a miraculous recovery, an incredible cure, a life expectancy extended, we thank the group and float in this incredible happy space.

Not having expectations makes all of us a lot happier, more free, able to continue to do the work.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Are you doing energy healing on people? What is your experience like regarding acknowledgement, etc? Please put them in the comments below if you are watching this on YouTube. Let’s support one another and share our stories!

That’s all for now. Thanks so much for reading and watching.

How to Cope with Empathic Overwhelm

Today’s video is about empathic overwhelm. Those of us who are ultra sensitive have to nurture and take extra measures to protect ourselves. Why? Because we have the tendency to get burned out more easily than non-empaths.

If you are an empath like me, you probably find you need to stay away from places that overwhelm you. My son is 8 years old and LOVES to go to Dave and Busters to play games and win prizes. We go to one in Hollywood, and it’s totally like being in a casino. Whenever I go there, about 30% of my energy gets drained.

As for places with very low energy, I just don’t go there. I made a video a while back about my trip to Lily Dale in NY. It’s a spiritualist community that is chock full of ghosts and mourning visitors dying to communicate with their deceased loved ones. I will never go there again! It’s an empath’s nightmare – SERIOUSLY!

Empaths must also stay away from energy vampires. These are people who just drain the life out of you. And we must always practice a lot of self–care. I need a lot of alone time; it’s so precious to me. I also meditate daily.

Some of the most important emergency measures empaths can take to heal empathic overwhelm are:

Taking therapeutic salt water baths
Walking in nature
Retreating from the world

Some empaths avoid all people and all places. They never go to shopping malls or amusement parks. Trips to Costco and Home Depot are unheard of, because they’re just too overwhelming. It definitely helps, but the thing is, it’s unfair to have to be a recluse!

If you’re at the level of empathy where it’s encroaching on your ability to live a normal life, here are some things you can do to heal:

Meditate Daily

This free guided meditationreally does ground you and shift your vibration so you feel stronger and more centered. I’ve done it almost every day for years now.

Work on Your Aura

If you work on your aura consistently over the course of a few years, you will bring new levels of light in. This light buffers and protects you. It’s easy to do, too. Just simply imagine you are breathing in a golden light. Have that gold vibration fill up your aura. Do it every day, while you are driving, walking, or working out. There is something so special and sacred about that golden light. Trust me – this WORKS!

Move Your Solar Plexus Energy into your Heart Chakra

A lot of us empaths have unbalanced solar plexus chakras. I learned from author Sanaya Roman, who channels Orin, that the best thing you can do is lift negative solar plexus energy up into your heart chakra. The heart charka is so powerful that it just melts that energy away. I have been practicing this when I feel empathic overwhelm, and it is very, very helpful and powerful.

Don’t let being an empath rob yourself of the enjoyment of life! With the right tools to help you stay safe and centered, you can avoid empathic overwhelm and consistently feel safe and protected.

Thanks so much for reading and watching!

Mental and Emotional Health during Extremely Stressful Times

Well this has been quite a year, hasn’t it? Today’s video, on how to cope mentally and emotionally, is the first in a 3-part series on coping during extremely stressful times.

Taking care of your mental and emotional health is critical to your survival! I hear consistently how much stress people are under these days. Many are collectively experiencing panic attacks, depression, anxiety, and an overall sense of foreboding.

With that in mind, here are some basic tips to help steer yourself towards healthy mental and emotional habits during times like this:

1. Focus on the fact that we are living in extremely stressful times, and that this can trigger issues from the past. This will help you not chastise yourself, and realize it’s normal to have fear and low-level (or extreme) depression. It’s crazy times! It’s OK to not be happy 24/7!

2. Learn something new to occupy your mind and give yourself something to look forward to; it could be a job skill, or learning how to do something you’ve always wanted to do.

3. Read good books and watch some of the good shows out there! This will shift your focus and distract yourself – and it’s OK to do so in times like these!

4. Talk it out! Get professional support if you need to. Talk to friends, unload, communicate. This releases tension and stress and helps you to bond and connect, which is therapeutic. The connection with other human beings is so vital to our mental and emotional wellbeing!

5. Sit with your emotions and feel them, and let yourself be OK with them. Don’t squash or repress them. Find ways to cope by occupying yourself, but also be understanding of yourself for feeling negative emotions during times like this.

6. Don’t force yourself to feel better if you don’t! If you can’t get out of bed, ask a friend to call or text you to check in on you. Let loved ones know you need their ongoing support.

7. If it’s really bad, and you’re experiencing an unbearable crush of uncomfortable emotions, get professional help! Get a prescription if you need to! There are times when we need extra support, and this would be one of them.

8. Meditate! It’s so therapeutic and healing. Guided meditations have a purpose; they can help you release anxiety, re-balance your chakras, heal wounds from the past, and more. Guided meditation can treat so many issues in a beautiful, calming, soothing way.

Are there special things that you are doing to cope mentally and emotionally during these trying times? If so, leave them in the comments below the video!

Thanks so much for reading and watching.

Trust Your Gut [Dating Tip]

A lot of people come for readings with questions about relationships. So I’ve learned a few things over the years! One of the most important things I want to share with you today is simple, but profound, and it’s this:

Trust your Instincts!

If you’re needing to get a lot of readings about someone you are dating, your own intuition or subconscious is trying to tell you something’s off.

The hard part is living with that feeling that something is off, but not having the proof or validation to end it with them. Sometimes the validation you’re seeking doesn’t even come up in a reading. Why? Because some people who have a lot to hide are adept at cloaking themselves, even in the psychic space. They will do any and everything they can to not be found out. That, in and of itself, is a major red flag. Those who have nothing to hide have no problem being read psychically. But when you have a little feeling that something is off, that’s your “Princess and the Pea” intuition! It’s sending you a smoke signal that you must not ignore.

When you wait, and wait, and wait for that validation…

Some people hear negative things about their romantic partners in readings, but still wait to see. They wait to see if it changes or improves. They also wait to see just how bad it can get. I get that. I mean, most of us like to be optimistic when it comes to love. Sadly, though, if you’re booking readings about someone because your gut is telling you something is off, it typically doesn’t get better. Some people wait for years to figure out just what it is that’s off. Others even marry the person!

When you stay with someone that your gut was warning you about, that’s a powerful sign that there’s karma to be worked out. In some cases, you can avoid a gnarly situation with ONE person, only to have to go through it with ANOTHER person. When there’s karmic work to be done, your gut, and intuition, will guide you through the process of figuring out how to get through it with ease and grace.

But maybe your karmic lesson is to trust yourself in the first place! And that brings me back to the core lesson here. If you have the slightest inkling something ain’t right, trust yourself, and save yourself the heartache!

Thanks so much for reading and watching.

How to Heal if You’ve Been Bullied

When you are on the spiritual path and working on healing yourself, one of the best things you can do is forgive those who have hurt you. Not so the other person feels better, but so you are released from the pain that was created and the damage that was done to you.

Forgiving Bullies

Many of us sensitive people have been hurt by bullies. It’s a trigger issue for me, because I’ve been bullied. I know how painful and horrible it is. Bullies are scary. When you’re in a home or work environment where you can’t easily escape, it’s a matter of life and death. So the forgiveness of bullies is an extra powerful exercise for spiritual growth.

How can you possibly forgive a horrible, mean person like a bully?

Escape First

Obviously, getting away from (or stopping) a bully is the top priority. Earlier this year, my son told me an older boy at his school was bullying him, and recruited 3 other little boys to the cause. I immediately called the principal, who nipped it in the bud. In some cases, though, bullies won’t stop. The only recourse is to get far away from them. Once you’ve escaped, you can begin to heal the damage that was done to you.

How to Heal

The most gentle way of dealing with the fallout from bullies is to understand what happened to them and why they behave that way. Understanding is like a soothing balm on a wound, and it immediately reduces inflammation and starts the healing process.

Some bullies are just downright evil people. Everything is not all roses out there, and some humans actually delight in torturing other people. Others have psychological disorders for which there is no cure. If you can understand that they are sick, as are the evil people, you can release them with compassion and forgiveness because they know not what they do. They are ill.

Other bullies were abused as children or adults, and feel threatened by you and your light. They are acting out because they’re in pain. Their self-esteem is so low that they thrive on taking others down.

The Writing Process

There are other reasons people bully, of course. One of the most profound and powerful ways you can heal AND boost your intuitive skills is to journal. Write out why the person acts the way they do. Create it like a story. Chances are, you will be more accurate than you could ever begin to believe. And this writing process is very healing. You will hit on powerful truths.

You can then write “I release you, and I forgive you. You will not longer hurt me” or something to that effect. And if you want to make a ceremony out of it, burn the story about the person, and burn your note of forgiveness. Do this when the moon is waning, and you will have a powerful releasing process.

The act of forgiveness of a bully is serious work. And it’s important, because it releases you from being a victim. When you forgive, you lock in your true power. You are safe and protected. And that means you have the power to advocate for others who are being bullied. Together we can overcome this on a global scale.

I hope that makes sense and helps. If you have been or are being bullied, my heart goes out to you. Thanks so much for reading and watching.

Why Skepticism is Healthy [Spiritual Growth]

I have found over the years that there’s an ideal mindset to follow when you’re doing psychic and spiritual work. It’s basically being skeptical, but open and willing to learn, and curious about everything.

Too Much Skepticism = Bad News

Being too skeptical closes you off to everything! The people who think anything psychic is fake, or the work of Satan, end up shutting themselves off to the magic and wonder of this realm. Skeptical people tend to ridicule believers, too. Those of us who are sensitive have a very hard time with that. Some of us are afraid to shine our light for fear of being burned at the stake. This is not an unfounded fear.

Too Much Blind Belief = Bad News

If you are too extra with the woo-woo, that can be bad, too! Walking around with your head in the clouds, being too airy-fairy and over the top, can leave you ungrounded. It can also lead you to believe people, concepts, and ideas that may not be in your best interest to follow. You might open yourself up to corruption, like the people drinking the Kool-aid to get on the Mothership.

The Middle of the Road

I firmly believe the best path is to take everything and study it before fully believing it. Read the books. Listen to the meditations. Watch the videos. And then, decide for yourself: is this true for me?

I come across so many different concepts in this psychic work. Some resonate with me, and some don’t. For example, I discovered the iChing when a friend did readings with it. She did some for me, and I was intrigued. Eventually, I got the iChing book she used, and another…and then more. I continue to do readings for myself, and find them to be insightful and accurate. You see, using cards and clairvoyance for yourself can be tricky. Your own “stuff” tends to get in the way. But the iChing is different, and can be very clear. So I use it more often now, because I find it to be very helpful.

A lot of this boils down to plain old trial and error. If something really resonates with you, then it’s meant for you. Remember that people in authority and power are invested in your believing them. They will say whatever they need to say to be heard, even if they’re not authentic. Questioning leads you to your power. And being skeptical, but curious, is a wonderful state that allows you freedom, but protects your safety and sanity.