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Last week I spoke about sensitive healers needing strong boundaries. This week, let’s continue the conversation, focusing on how some loved ones may react when you start enforcing your boundaries.

Many of us who are sensitive and on the path of personal development find we need to work on boundaries. The reasons for lack of boundaries are far and wide! But what sometimes happens when we finally start saying “No” and “This doesn’t work for me” is that people we have known for a really long time can get very angry with us.

People like you to be the way they have always expected you to be. You’ve settled into a familiar dynamic. When you change, it can be scary, even if they know this is something you are working on. They may do all kinds of things to get you to go back to the old way. They may even accuse you of being narcissistic or having other awful character traits you do not possess.

Your job is to stand firm in your self-respect and to know and trust that you are not what they say you are. And that you are putting yourself first.

A client I worked with recently had a serious health issue and set a boundary regarding a demanding project with an old friend. The friend got very angry with my client and didn’t consider health as a factor in her ability to function. She was aware my client had a health issue, but never did ask more about it. The client is now re-evaluating the friendship, seeing this other person in a different light.

Be firm. If they are not understanding of your needs, reconsider your commitment to the relationship. You are not the same person you were before.

Another client had a friend who constantly flaked. She told the person how deeply this hurt her and asked her not to do it. The friend then did it 3 times in a row. My client got angry, the friend flipped out and accused my client of being hurtful – she flipped the whole thing around. That’s when you know that person is toxic and has to go.

Have you had to work on boundaries with loved ones? How did it go? Please share in the comments!

Thanks so much for reading and watching, and I’ll see you next time.

Living life as an intuitive is different. We sense and feel at a much deeper level than non-sensitive, non-psychic intuitive people. Sharing life with an intuitive is a unique experience with challenges and benefits.

Here are the basic tips I cover in the video above:

1. Respect for both parties.
2. Understand that the intuitive’s triggers are like allergies
3. Create a peaceful, safe home space with positive vibes
4. As the intuitive, avoid the “I told you so” syndrome when your intuitive hits are accurate
5. Encourage the non-intuitive to be more intuitive – this absolutley works!

Are you an intuitive, or sharing your life with one? What other tips do you suggest? Please share in the comments below!

Thanks so much for reading and watching, and I’ll see you next time.

In spiritual and personal growth circles, you will hear a lot about the importance of speaking up for yourself, and for speaking your truth. However, the stark reality is that speaking your truth often brings about consequences – and not all of them are easy.

Are you ready to deal with what may come?

Change is an inevitable part of life, and speaking up for yourself will likely result in change. Some of us find this challenging – so with that…

Here are 3 steps to getting more comfortable with speaking up for yourself:

1. Does this situation bother you? If so, are you willing to do something to change it? This is the key factor. If you are more content NOT communicating, and this feels good to you, then why change it? Wait until you are ready. But if you are UNCOMFORTABLE or you feel off, this is your intuition telling you that you need to make a stand.

2. Practice! Speak up in little ways in your life. Say how you really feel when people ask how you are. Practice saying no when you feel safe to do so. Be honest re. your preferences, decisions, etc. Do this with people you feel comfortable with, then gradually start to branch out.

3. Before speaking up re. the bigger things, be aware of what the potential fallout could be. The more you are aware of the landscape, the more equipped you will be in dealing with what comes next.

Have you ever had to speak up for yourself in an unfair or uncomfortable situation? What happened as a result? Please leave a comment!

If you watch the video above, I reference a Chakra Clearing meditation I made that will help with this: Click here to get it. 

I also recommend the new version of the Psychic Protection for Empaths course – check it out!

Thanks so much for reading and watching, and I’ll see you next time!

We’ve all been in situations where we have to cope with difficult people. The worst is when some people are so challenging that they get us all out of whack. In situations like this, rather than condemn them, if we seek to understand why they behave the way they do, it can help us grow on so many different levels.

It’s pretty easy to dislike a person, put up a wall, react with anger, and maybe run away so we never have to encounter that person again. Sometimes, though, these people just keep coming. It could be the same person, a few people, or that same type of personality/interaction that keeps showing up in life.

If someone is triggering us, or they are just a real jerk, it really does help to take a few steps back and look at why they could be behaving the way they are. That’s where being psychic blends so beautifully with personal and spiritual growth. It can help us understand things we might never have known – perhaps some difficult people have personality disorders, or they had traumatic childhoods. When we see things from the vantage point of understanding, we are more easily able to release that charge that infuriates us about the other person.

We don’t have to accept rotten behavior, but when we seek to understand, it tends to soften things and that knowledge and understanding creates an unshakeable foundation. We may not have such an angry reaction, because we understand them and see them.

What’s important is that we do not have to force ourselves to be around people who behave terribly. In fact, I’d say do the work to heal and understand, and if it’s still bad, by all means leave if you can. There’s no need to suffer endlessly because of another person’s behavior and actions!

Ultimately, understanding where others are coming from just creates more peace. It’s a nice way to be in general, don’t you think? I’ve also found that  this approach can help us cycle out of negative patterns where difficult types of people keep coming in, and leads us to more joyful relationships. What a relief, right?!?

Are there people in your life who are just so challenging to be around? Have you looked into why they are that way? Please share in the comments!

Thanks so much for reading and watching, and I’ll see you next time!

You know how we talk about the concept of “The One” in terms of soulmate, romantic love? It’s very common – almost universal!

The thing is, to think of a romantic partner in terms of “The One” is limiting and can create enormous fear. Like if you’re not at the right place at the right time, you will miss meeting “The One” and that will be the end of that. Or if you broke up with, or never got together with, someone you thought was your only person…all hope is gone. The idea is devastating!

What tends to happen on the heels of “The One” is that you get fixated on one human, to the point where if it doesn’t work out, you suffer enormous pain. You might even fear “The One” got away, and you will never have the love you so desperately want and need.

There are over 7 billion people on the planet right now. How could it be that there is only ONE ideal match for each of us? It’s more likely that there would be several really solid potential matches for each person here on the earth.

So what’s the solution? When approaching this subject, a practice of surrender might be the best path forward. To trust that there is a divine plan, and if not this particular person, another wonderful and just as perfect soulmate will be delivered.

What are your thoughts on this? Or your own personal experiences? Please leave a comment on YouTube!

We all have intuition. It’s essentially the same thing as being psychic, just a softer term for it; something that’s more relatable.

Intuition works really well when we are confronting something potentially dangerous, as it’s here to protect us. This is especially true in the beginning stages of a relationship. Often, intuition will present as a gut feeling telling us to pay attention to a little red flag (or a big one, or multiple ones).

Sometimes we chose to ignore these gut feelings. Why? Because in the beginning stages of a relationship, things are exciting, fun and happy! We don’t want to listen to that nagging voice or pit in our stomach. But the thing is, red flags don’t go away.

That gut feeling is trying to tell you something is not right.

As with many situations in life, we are so fortunate to have choices. There’s nothing wrong with following through with someone only to find out later you were right. There’s also nothing wrong with pulling the brakes, investigating that red flag, and then calling it quits. A lot of what we chose to do is all about where we are in life. Sometimes we need to grow through difficulties; other times, we are able to say “No thanks!” and take another road.

Have you had a sense that something was off or wrong in the beginning of a relationship, only to find out later that you were right? If so, please share in the comments on YouTube!

Thanks so much for reading and watching, and I’ll see you next time.

Do you like Disney movies? I do! And the new ones they are making, like Mulan and Frozen, are so empowering for young people. I love that. Older movies, however, like Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty, conditioned many of us to believe something not altogether positive about soul mates and life partners.

I hear a LOT about what people go through doing intuitive work. The most prevalent is the belief that a soul mate is someone with whom you will have a match made in heaven and live happily ever after.

When that doesn’t happen, some people become very upset. A common question that comes up in readings is, “Why did this happen?” and “Why did (or do) I have to be with this person?”

One of the clearest explanations that I have discovered that answers this dilemma is that there are soul mates who are fun and wonderful, and there are soul mates who teach challenging life lessons.

The more we understand that, the clearer we can be about who we are, and what we are here to learn. Some of the most triggering soul mates force us to grow, to resolve karma, and to heal ourselves. In many cases, they force us to heal from the pain we went through because of them!

If you are in a situation where it’s not a walk in the park, but you are bonded with that person, one of the best things you can do is ask how you can grow from the situation. If you look for the lesson and the gift, you’ll start to discover what patterns and cycles need to break so that you can ultimately get to where you want to be in life.

For some people, a realization that they don’t need to stay with a pain-causing soul mate is a part of that lesson. They can then forgive the person, forgive themselves, and move on. Spiritually speaking, this is more empowering than feeling the energy of anger and hatred, then parting ways without working on forgiveness and understanding.

I understand how tormenting it can be to be with someone who causes you pain. I have counseled people who have been through hell and back in relationships. Sometimes, however, the person who causes the pain is really a powerful, loving teacher in disguise. A foil, if you will…and on the other side, the spirit is indeed a true soul mate and friend.

It would be wonderful if we didn’t have to suffer. But in some cases, being with the perfect companion can cause us to be complacent and comfortable. While many teachers say we are here to be happy, I believe we are here to learn, grow, and evolve.

A person who prompts you to look within and do the work to transform, even if that transformation means standing up for yourself and leaving the situation, is truly a catalyst for growth. If we can think of things in these terms, we can more easily understand situations that we don’t love, but that are asking us to grow.

A lot of people come for readings with questions about relationships. So I’ve learned a few things over the years! One of the most important things I want to share with you today is simple, but profound, and it’s this:

Trust your Instincts!

If you’re needing to get a lot of readings about someone you are dating, your own intuition or subconscious is trying to tell you something’s off.

The hard part is living with that feeling that something is off, but not having the proof or validation to end it with them. Sometimes the validation you’re seeking doesn’t even come up in a reading. Why? Because some people who have a lot to hide are adept at cloaking themselves, even in the psychic space. They will do any and everything they can to not be found out. That, in and of itself, is a major red flag. Those who have nothing to hide have no problem being read psychically. But when you have a little feeling that something is off, that’s your “Princess and the Pea” intuition! It’s sending you a smoke signal that you must not ignore.

When you wait, and wait, and wait for that validation…

Some people hear negative things about their romantic partners in readings, but still wait to see. They wait to see if it changes or improves. They also wait to see just how bad it can get. I get that. I mean, most of us like to be optimistic when it comes to love. Sadly, though, if you’re booking readings about someone because your gut is telling you something is off, it typically doesn’t get better. Some people wait for years to figure out just what it is that’s off. Others even marry the person!

When you stay with someone that your gut was warning you about, that’s a powerful sign that there’s karma to be worked out. In some cases, you can avoid a gnarly situation with ONE person, only to have to go through it with ANOTHER person. When there’s karmic work to be done, your gut, and intuition, will guide you through the process of figuring out how to get through it with ease and grace.

But maybe your karmic lesson is to trust yourself in the first place! And that brings me back to the core lesson here. If you have the slightest inkling something ain’t right, trust yourself, and save yourself the heartache!

Thanks so much for reading and watching.

This week’s topic is about romantic relationships, and how certain relationships bring our shadow side to the forefront so that we can heal that part of ourselves. A friend asked me to talk about it, after having an experience that was exactly like this.

Earth School

One of the most important reasons we are here on this planet is to learn and grow. To make mistakes and learn from them, and to forgive ourselves and others. Ultimately, from a karmic standpoint, we are here to evolve into a state of pure, calm, unconditional love and freedom from the wheel of life.

Romance = Earth School 101

An ideal playing field for this is our romantic relationships. In many cases, another person will reflect back to us the parts that need healing, like an unsettling funhouse mirror. Contrary to the name, this kind of mirror is not fun at all. However, it’s a really helpful way to bring things that are holding us back, into the light.

If we can look at the issues the other person triggers with a healthy dose of curiosity, we can make a lot of progress. The question-asking process is so helpful in this. Questions like “What am I meant to learn from this?” and “Why did that happen?” and, most importantly, “Why does this KEEP happening?” are the best ones to ask.

Patterns are NOT Doomed to Repeat

The moment you see there is a pattern repeating itself, you’re halfway there to breaking it. You’re not doomed to keep continuing the same thing over and over again for the rest of your life. How boring would that be?

A lot of the healing process is about introspection, either on your own, or with a therapist or energy healer or intuitive. The ultimate concept to work in is to see yourself as a mirrored magnet, and realize that you’re magnetizing in certain people and situations that reflect to you how you feel about yourself. If you come to a place of loving yourself thoroughly and completely, you’ll likely bring in people who reflect that to you.

The beautiful thing about this is that it’s a fluid process. There will always be new changes and new situations to focus on, which provide new opportunities for greater growth and deeper understandings of our meaning and purpose in the world.

Phew! A somewhat heavy topic…but I hope this makes sense and helps.

Thanks so much for reading and watching! And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!

Have you heard of the saying, “Intuition isn’t supernatural, it’s super natural?” It’s true! Intuition is SO natural. There is nothing wacky about it! In fact, honoring your intuition is essential if you want to lead a peaceful life.

Intuitive Dating

Your body is a finely-tuned mechanism that actually has intuition built-in. It’s your internal warning system! That’s why it’s essential to trust how you feel when you first meet another person, especially if it’s romantic in nature.

Honoring your intuition is critical to your wellbeing. Even more so when you’re dating! When someone is presenting their best self to you, it’s important to listen to what your intuition has to say. Listen to it above all else, especially when the other person is trying to convince you that they’re absolutely wonderful through and through.

She KNEW something was off.

Recently, a very intuitive client asked me to double check a guy she’d gone out with. The first image I got was him wearing a mask, like a frowny-face mask, when other people were frowning. He was really feeling fine, but put on a mask to match what other people were feeling. She immediately gasped and said that her first impression was that he was a sociopath — and she was right. You see, people usually don’t divulge things like this about themselves. You have to trust your gut.

Outside appearances will often try to convince you everything is fine. And yes, maybe you can overlook that elephant in the room or that tight feeling in your solar plexus. The problem is, what you are feeling will eventually surface, whether it’s 6 months or 5 years later. And you’ll have wished you had listened to yourself in the first place.

She Married Him!

A client I love recently confessed to me that she married the guy I’d warned her not to marry in a reading years ago. She loves him dearly, but has a sneaking suspicion she could have done a little better in terms of being with someone more in tune with her beautiful free spirit.

Perhaps this is one of the life lessons that she is now working through. Life lessons will present themselves in many different ways. Let’s say she hadn’t married the guy. In that case, she may have had a work situation that restricted her freedom, or something else. In this case, though, it’s come in the form of this relationship.

Life lessons and karma are unavoidable. But I don’t want you to go through being in a not-so-great relationship if you can avoid it.

Pay attention to how your body feels and trust yourself, even if you don’t have information to back it up yet. There are so many ways we can learn life lessons, and listening to your intuition will help make the process easier. Especially when it comes to romantic relationships, which are the perfect stomping ground for spiritual growth.

Thanks so much for reading and watching! And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!

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