A Major Block to Finding Love: Scarcity Thinking!

So many people who are searching for true, lasting, meaningful love come to me for sessions to find out what they are doing to create blocks and repeat negative patterns. While everyone is different, one common thread I have found is that a lot of what’s going on has to do with scarcity thinking.

What Does Scarcity Thinking Mean?

In a nutshell, it means they are afraid they are going to have to settle for less. This fear manifests in a myriad of questions:

“Is the guy you see me with going to be shorter than I want?”

“Am I going to even be attracted to my future husband?”

“Is he at least somewhat good looking?” 

And these questions are all speaking to the same fundamental core issue, which is,

“Please tell me I don’t have to settle for an ogre.”

Of course I get that fear! But that fear, unfortunately, can stop the flow of things happening in your love life. It indicates that you feel you’re not going to be able to have someone come in who is right for you, who you want to have in your life. And it stops the flow when you are looking around the world like “Oh no, I am so not going to get what I want.” Imagine taking that energy with you when you’re shopping for clothes or shoes or makeup! That’s no fun at all! Whereas when you’re excited and hopeful and you know you’re going to score…you generally do.A Core Question: What do you feel you deserve to have?

If you have a sneaking suspicion that you might be aligning with scarcity thinking, don’t worry! Just be real with yourself, and explore how you feel. Get deep into the emotion of it and the energy behind it. Don’t be afraid to feel it. And be honest! If you think there is no one out there for you, say it. Write it down. If you worry that you’re too old to find love, write that down. If you’re afraid you’ve never had good luck and you never will, acknowledge that, too. 

Once you get it all out, purge it! Send it down your grounding cord and release it. Meditate and clairvoyantly see pictures that represent that fear, and then blow them up and watch that energy dissipate. Of course, you can also work with an energy healer or intuitive or therapist to help you heal and release this energy.

Are You Willing to Accept Love when it Arrives?

Another issue that often comes up around blocks to love is that of sending away good potentials. For example, when you see someone who might be suitable for you, you find reasons not to like that person and you stop anything from developing. Maybe you are still caught up with another unsuitable person, or you look for reasons not to like the person that is here for you right now.

A great way to work with this is to practice being open to love coming through in many different ways, shapes, and forms. No, you do not have to settle, but you do need to be open to a myriad of different people as potential partners. Different ethnicities, ages, etc. There are billions of people on the planet! Start to look for the beauty in others! Look into their eyes and see their spirit and you will find so many more wonderful people you could be in partnership with.

And Last but Not Least…Manifesting Time!

Sometimes we are so used to living on auto pilot that we forget what powerful manifestors we are. You really can get what you want in life. Once you see that you can create circumstance and experiences and things in other areas of your life, you can apply it to love and watch beautiful transformations take place. Start easy! Make a manifesting list, a vision board, and start to make that happen. Keep it simple! Try to remember that it can be as easy as making a grocery list: you just go to the store and get all the things on your list. You created a fridge full of food! You can do the same with manifesting other things in life, including love. Why not?!

Finally, as I always say, once you know you have a block or pattern, you can release it! There is so much reason to have hope. Really and truly.

Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!