Today’s video is about relationships, and getting someone off your mind. The topic is so prevalent that I actually created a course for women to help heal the issue; it’s called Get Him Off Your Mind in 28 Days.
In order to heal this issue, you really want to get to the genesis of it. This means that at some point, you have to stop, step back, and ask yourself if this has happened before. If not, great! If it has happened before, though, it would be really helpful for you to investigate why it’s happening again. This is not fun to do, but it’s important if you want the pattern to stop.
The process of looking back can be painful and uncomfortable. But getting to the root cause of why you are attracting people or dynamics that bring you deep unhappiness and sorrow is a great way to stop it from happening again.
Everyone is different, but oftentimes you’ll find the root cause started in childhood. Perhaps your parents had a tumultuous or unhappy relationship. Or someone was cruel to you in your family or at school. It could have originated in a past life, or in your first marriage. The fact is, it happened somewhere. And the minute you figure out something’s off and it’s triggering a pattern, you’re well on your way to healing it.
Once you have an idea about the source of the problem, the healing work can begin. You can work with a therapist, do SFT, EFT, hypnosis, your own meditations, or work with an energy healer.
And you can absolutely clear this energy and heal that pattern so it no longer repeats. That will be fun! You can finally break free of painful repetitive cycles and allow yourself to attract the kind of people who resonate with you harmoniously. People with whom you can create a beautiful life.
This week’s video is about relationships, and the ever-so-common pitfall that many of my clients run into. That’s right…it’s another Get Him Off Your Mindtopic! The subject is so prevalent that I created a program called Get Him Off Your Mind in 28 Daysto help women cope with just this issue. Women from all over the world – powerful, educated, intelligent women – are going through this, so if it’s happened or is happening to you, you’re not alone.
Today I have a tip that will help nip the need to get someone off your mind in the bud at the very get-go.
Breaking Patterns
I have a client who is very pretty and is a wonderful, loving, spiritual person. Yet she has a pattern of dating guys who treat her like dirt. It happens so much that she knows it’s a pattern and is dedicated to working on herself to heal this. It has definitely impacted her self-esteem, which is what she is focused on repairing. We were talking about yet another guy who let her down and the negative impact it had on her life.
She remembered that when she first met him, she had a bad feeling in her gut. She wasn’t sure if it was a fear based on her past patterns, or really her intuition, but it turned out to be her intuition after all. In that conversation, we came to the conclusion that the only way to break this pattern (other than, of course, inner work), is to get a crystal clear idea of who the guy is at the very get-go. Before there’s too much interest, and before things get off the ground.
No More Rose Colored Glasses.
I have another client, a successful, beautiful entrepreneur and young grandmother. She had gotten engaged to a guy who made her very happy. Until she had a serious illness. He disappeared on her, and after some other troubling issues, she booked a session with me to get the real scoop on who he was and if he would change. In this session, it was revealed that he is basically a Peter Pan type of guy who will never grow up and wants to live in Never-Never Land forever. NOT the kind of guy she wants to be married to. She broke off the engagement.
While it is so wonderful to just fall in love, it helps to see things very clearly before your emotions jump on board and get you all caught up with someone. That means taking off those beautiful rose-colored glasses and looking at things very clearly and analytically. It’s not very fun, but it is practical and can save you from a lot of pain down the line.
Trust Your Gut and Make a List of Pros and Cons!
Most people show you their best selves in the beginning of a relationship. That’s where you can get swept away! So before any of your emotions are on the line, get a clear sense of who this person is. What’s his status? What is he about? Make a list of pros and cons and HIGHLIGHT THE RED FLAGS! They won’t go away; in fact, they will likely get worse as time goes by.
You’re intuitive. We all are! The key here is to not get caught up in the fairy tale. It will save you so much heartache in the end. Think about it! Let’s say you’re dating this person you had some serious qualms about in the beginning. Two years go by…and then you break up. You take two or three more years to work on yourself and heal, and BAM, that’s five years of your life that flew by!
Don’t sacrifice what you really need just because he is a guy who likes you. Put yourself first by being strong, not getting swept away, and seeing who he is very clearly. And above all, don’t compromise!!
Have you noticed how much information is in front of us on a daily basis? We’re constantly bombarded by news, advertisements, and other messaging and imagery. In fact, so much information (and energy) is put in front of us that we sometimes resort to ways of managing it that we’re not even fully aware of. One of these ways is by thinking about a particular romantic interest, to the extent where everything else fades to the background. Thoughts of that person take prevalence. This can be fun at first, but can turn detrimental when the other person isn’t good for you, or isn’t reciprocating.
Yes – this week I’m bringing you another Get Him Off Your Mind video! As you know, this is a program I created for women who are experiencing this situation. Over the years, it’s been the #1 topic women have come to me seeking advice on. The issue is so prevalent that I knew there had to be a way to help, and Get Him Off Your Mind does just that. It gently guides you through getting him out of your system, so you can reclaim your life, and get your energy back.
It’s all about Being Busy.
One of the most important things you can do if you’re in the throes of this type of scenario is to get yourself as BUSY AS POSSIBLE. When you have time for your mind to wander, it is going to naturally run over to him. Those thoughts divert your focus from your own life, though, and this weakens you. What’s healthy for you is to bring your energy back to yourself. When you’re thinking about him a lot, your energy is going to him and hitting a wall because he is not giving you what you need. Your attention is as scattered as it would be if you were watching Netflix, talking on the phone, cleaning the house, eating, listening to music, and scrolling through your Instagram and Twitter feeds while working, fielding emails, DM’s, and text messages all at once.
The best thing you can do to bring your errant thoughts about him back to yourself and your own life is to throw yourself into something that forces you to focus 100%. This way, you concentrate on that and nothing but that. This is going to save you and start to break the cycle once and for all.
At first it won’t be that easy, but as you continue, you will get better, and soon he is going to be a distant memory.
Multi-Tasking is the Norm – but Focus is the Key
I know how easy it is to multi-task. I was joking about watching Netflix while doing a million other things, but the truth is, many of us actually do that. And while it does scatter your energy, if watching TV while running on the treadmill while listening to music holds your focus and stops you from thinking about him for 45 minutes, then that is what you need to do!
This year I started training in Jiu Jitsu. I love it because it requires me to be fully ground and present. As with being in the psychic space, I literally can’t think of anything but Jiu Jitsu when I’m doing it, or else I a) won’t be able to do it right and B) I will likely get injured.
So if you can find something to do that requires all of your energy, do it! See how long you can focus on it. You will soon notice that your thoughts of him diminish dramatically as you hold the focus on other activities. First it’ll be 20 minutes, then an hour, then 4 hours, and eventually you won’t think of him at all.
Call in the Forces!
Another thing that will be helpful is to reach out to your friends and family for support and let them help you to think about other things. Get involved! Listen to what they have to say! Get out and do things together! Take a weekend trip, go do something fun. Call in the forces! This reminds you that you have a life and fun things to do. As an added bonus, this will naturally help raise your self-esteem because for a lot of you going though this, I know your self-esteem has really taken a hit. I address that and help you with it in the program as well.
Being busy helps immensely! It’s simple, I know, but when you do it right, it’s like this magical thing happens, and he starts to fade to the background. Sometimes it’s the most basic things that get us through the tough times. And I know this is a difficult situation to be in. I truly hope this helps! And for for more info on the Get Him Off Your Mind program, click here.
Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
This week I’m continuing the thread I’ve been talking about lately, which is when you’re obsessing about someone and you can’t get them off your mind. This issue is so prevalent among women in particular in modern-day society that I created a solution called Get Him Off Your Mind to help. This 28-day program includes powerful, life-affirming energy healing techniques as well as practical everyday assistance to help you recover and get your energy and power back. If you’d like to heal from this NOW, Get Him Off Your Mind provides immediate relief.
Don’t Give Your Power Away!
Today’s chat and video is all about your personal power. To be blunt, you lose that power when you are investing in someone who is not giving you what you’re looking for or what you need.
When you are really wrapped up with someone to the point where you’re thinking about them all through the day and night, a part of your life force energy actually leaves you. It drains out of your biofield/body/aura and goes out and sits with that other person. What that does to YOU is that it robs you of your power because you are not fully grounded, centered, in your body, and engaged in your own life.
I know that’s a sobering thought! Another thing that this does to you is it makes it hard for you to manifest and create good things for yourself (like the type of relationship you really desire) because you are not present.
The Lights are on but Nobody’s Home
I can’t stress it enough: when you are thinking about someone constantly, your energy is literally with that person. That’s how strong energy is! You are also feeding a negative pattern of your energy being out there hitting a wall, as the other person is not reciprocating with love. This ends up harming your self-esteem. Your energy is basically going nowhere.
When you sit back and realize how detrimental this is to you, whether or not you take the Get Him Off Your Mind program, you can start to bring your energy back. You will remember who you are and what you’re here in this life to focus on.
3 Easy Tips to Call Your Energy Back
Your energy belongs with you, in your body and your own energy field – not with anyone else. Once you know how to call it back to you, things will get much easier. To that end, here are 3 basic ways to get started doing just that:
1. Meditate!
Put your attention and focus on your heart space and center yourself there. Imagine there is a magnet in your heart, and that magnet is pulling your energy back from the other person. Just keep calling it back and calling it back, letting that powerful magnet pull your energy into you, and watch as the light of your heart chakra gets brighter and brighter. Affirm how much you love yourself and your life and let your beautiful spirit and heart radiate love to your body and your mind.
2. Stop yourself.
The minute you start to think about him, crush that thought immediately. With repeated effort, this will reprogram both your conscious and subconscious minds. Just look at your hands or feet, look around the room, focus on your work, get into something that is good for you. Start a project that’s creative. Talk to other people – that will take a lot of your energy, because you need to be present with them. As much as you can, focus on other projects and activities. Eventually, what you focus on will be where your energy goes, and you will re-direct it from that other person and into something much more productive.
3. Use a Talisman.
This is sort of piggybacking on the other 2 tips, but wear something like a bracelet, ring, mala beads, or magical talisman. Every time you think of that person, tap the object and ground yourself by holding onto it and thinking thoughts that remind you of why the person isn’t good for you. You can also think of a negative trait that the other person has. If you don’t want to think negative things, just think about how good it is for you to focus on yourself and your life instead. With practice, this, too, will reprogram your mind.
You do Have the Power to Stop!
Remember: no matter how powerful the connection is with this other person, you do have the power to stop. Sometimes you might let yourself slip into thoughts about them because it’s fun or it helps you to focus on that person vs. other painful issues in your life. But when all of this stops being fun, simply call your power back. Get centered and grounded so that you can manifest and ultimately, when you are ready, bring in someone who is good for you.
If you are grappling with this, know you’re not alone. It’s very prevalent and that’s why I created this program– so people would have a solution!
I hope that helps. Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
Did you know that personal objects are filled with energy? Metals, plastics, and fabrics all absorb the energies emanated by the person who uses and wears them. Therefore, when you’re in the process of breaking up with or detaching from someone and you want to be completely free, it’s important to get rid of or clear objects associated with that person.
Get Him Off Your Mind
I’ve been making a lot of videos about this lately, focusing on the Get Him Off Your Mind program that I created for women who are going though this and need assistance. It’s very common! And I have to extend my apologies to all the men out there who need this. It happens to guys, too, but because my primary experience has been with helping women, that’s what I’m best able to speak to.
Objects Hold Energy!
Let’s say you’ve ended it with someone and you’re trying to get him off your mind. But he gave you a piece of jewelry, and every time you look at it, you’re reminded of him, and you feel angry, hurt, or upset. Or, perhaps you have a dress you wore on a memorable date with him. Every time you put it on, the energy you emanated while you were with him reminds you of the good times you’re no longer having with him. This actually pulls your energy down!
Perhaps you lived with him, and now he’s gone. But there in your living room is the recliner that he sat in every night. He’s no longer there, but that recliner is chock full of his energy! It’s all over it, seeping into it, and it’s like his little shadow is there in your environment.
Clean & Clear
In each of these cases, the best thing you can do is to either get rid of or clear these objects. It’s easier to clear items like jewelry, because you can give them a sea salt bath or set them out in the sun to reset their vibrations. But for larger items like heavily used furniture, donating them is the best option. You’ll notice that your space feels lighter and more vibrant after you do so. And you can take it a step further and do an entire house clearing after this, too, removing all unwanted energy from your environment.
For some, there will be a massive level of purging. I’m talking clearing out energy that’s been around for 20-30 years or so. If this is the case for you, tackling it in little steps or stages will be the best way forward. If there are certain items you know you need to get rid of but you can’t bring yourself to let go of, try letting someone else be the guardian of them for a while.
For many years, my friend Rebecca and I would exchange special items of clothing that we loved but didn’t wear anymore. That way, we felt safe…if we wanted it back, we knew how to get it. In most cases, it never came to that, and we were able to eventually let those things go.
It’s All about Your Comfort Level.
The purging process is really about your level of comfort and what will be best for you at the present moment. You can be a revolutionary if you want: get rid of everything you wore when you were with that person! Re-vamp your entire closet, re-do your whole social media, and change your entire music library. Eliminate everything that you remember about that other person as well as yourself when you were with him! Or, you can just gently release a few token items that you know will lighten you up.
Whatever method you choose to follow, know that by taking these steps, you will evolve and grow a new part of yourself separate from that person.
The key is to remember that everything is energy, and that items hold energy. When you cleanse them or let them go, you are also freeing yourself of the energy that tied you to that person.
I hope this helps! For more information on Get Him off Your Mind, click here: http://www.gethimoffyourmind.com.
That’s all for this week! Thanks so much for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
I have something to share with you that might surprise you: one of the major reasons people book sessions with me and other intuitives is to get the closure that another person won’t give them.
In fact, this situation has been so prevalent over the years that I created an entire immersive program to help people heal from it. It’s called Get Him Off Your Mind,and I developed it solely for women who are caught up in this common situation of obsessing over a guy and having a hard time getting him out of their system. I have to apologize to the men out there who are having this issue as well. I know you go through it too, but the majority of people who seek advice from me are women, so I catered the program to this particular situation/dynamic.
OMG Ghosting…Really?
Clients tell me time and time again that guys just fall off the face of the planet, ghost, disappear, and never call or text again. This happens after one date, 3 months of dating, and longer than that. It happens across the spectrum with different age groups. As an intuitive empath, I’m devastated by the fact that after having an intense, passionate encounter or relationship with someone, someone can just disappear. I’ve seen how difficult it can be for clients to be on the receiving, or rather non-receiving, end of this.
He just…Can’t.
I will say that in most cases, these men just don’t want to have a conversation. It’s easier to disappear than to talk, let you down, see you get angry or know they made you cry. Sad but true.
A woman’s typical first reaction is to try to get that the man to communicate and say something, to just be honest, upfront, to communicate. Especially if the woman is spiritually evolved and knows how to “talk it out.”
A lot of women want to write, too. They can easily craft long letters and text messages about things and send them to the men who are acting up. The majority of the time, though, that doesn’t get them what they need. Their lengthy messages will garner a non-response, or a B.S. response that doesn’t answer anything.
2 Ways to Heal from Being Ghosted
With that in mind, here are 2 ways to help you get closure when the guy won’t give it to you:
TIP 1:
Go ahead and write out everything you’re feeling! Get everything out of your system. Write every day for a week, purge it all, and do NOT send it to the guy. You will likely not get a response! When you are through with everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, go ahead and burn it all up and release it. Get witchy and do a sacred ceremony, releasing that energy when the moon is waning. This is the perfect planetary time to get things out of your life once and for all.
You will feel a difference…at least you are able to DO SOMETHING! There is great power and magic in ceremonial practices like this. Release the pain, let go of the burden, and most importantly, release his hold over you.
TIP 2:
Listen to the free grounding and centering meditation on my website. It’s amazing, and I do it before every session. Next, while you are still in that mediative space, call in the spirit of the other person and have a conversation with him. Say everything you need to say. Get it all out! This is an energetic exchange, and doing the grounding mediation first primes you to enter into the intuitive realm.
What is important to do after this is to say “I forgive you, I release you, and I thank you for leaving my life, with love and gratitude. Our karmic agreement is done.”
Then, you can imagine you’re breaking agreement sticks that bound you together, and burn them in the violet flame that transmutes and heals all energy.
These may seem like simple techniques, but they are indeed very powerful. You will notice a difference! He might just contact you out of the blue after this, so be prepared, and be strong.
That’s all for this week! Thanks so much for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
This week I’m continuing the conversation about relationships – namely, when you’re into somebody who isn’t good for you. Either they’re not returning your affections, or they don’t know you exist, or you finally realize it’s just not working out. Whatever the case, it’s time to move on – but you’re finding that difficult to do!
As you know, I created a program called Get Him Off Your Mindspecifically for women who are going through this. It’s chock full of energy healings and everyday practices to help you get your power back and reclaim your life.
And as for you amazing men out there, I am sorry I don’t have a Get Her Off Your Mind program available for you right now! I know you go through this too, but my main experience over the years has been with helping women, and I can only teach what I reallyknow. Men go through this too, though, and I do not mean to exclude you guys. I love you! And today’s video applies to both men and women alike.
Trace the Issue back to it’s Origin
If you find yourself in a situation where you can’t get someone off your mind, one of the things that can help is to stop and think about whether or not you have experienced a similar situation in the past. For example, when I was working on getting someone off my mind a while back, I realized this had first happened to me with a boy I liked in 10th grade, after my mom had died. He was unlike anyone I had ever met – the first and only punk/goth kid at school. I became goth because of him!!!! He transferred in during the school year and we became fast friends. I didn’t realize I actually had a crush on him until he was shipped off to live with his dad. And then I was completely and utterly devastated.
What typically happens is, an original issue (and by that I mean when it first begins, usually when you are young) has to do with karma. You go through it, you’re in pain, it sucks, and it shapes a part of who you are. Then, as you go through life, you inadvertently repeat it or allow situations to happen where you are in that same pattern again and again and again.
Unhealthy Patterns CAN be Broken!
The minute you know you have set up a disruptive pattern, karma or not, you can stop it and break it. So, something starts out being karma and it’s hard, but then because we don’t know any better we just keep doing the same. But when we get fed up with that, or realize that it just keeps on happening, that’s when we have the power to change it. Our awareness of it is the key!!!
Self-Sabotage
Oftentimes, with original karma that sets itself into a pattern, it’s like this weird, twisted unfair self-sabotage thing that is happening. For example, if you are engaging with someone and it’s not working, it’s like a withholding or withdrawal of love and affection that you are acutely aware of. You crave love, affection, and attention. That is beautiful! In a great situation, the other person would reciprocate, and you would have a great relationship with them.
When that is not happening, it creates a pain story. You just experience more of the same. It becomes so devastating that it can really crush you. It’s all-encompassing, and you feel like you are never going to get out of it. When you finally do, you go through life and then a few more years later, you experience the same thing all over again – unless you break the pattern with your intention.
It’s all about the Genesis
Again, one of the most effective ways to stop a pattern and heal it is to trace it back to the genesis, the origin. In many circumstances, I’ve discovered that there was a withholding of love from childhood. I know I experienced that, even before my high school goth crush. My mother divorced my father, who I loved dearly, when I was 3, and then wouldn’t let him have visitation. He’s a wonderful man and I am only now realizing just how very painful it was to lose him as a child. I’m tearing up right now just thinking about this as I write – so I know I still have healing and clearing work to do around that.
So, if you can just think back to your childhood and discover where the issue first started, experiencing the emotions by either writing the story out or just talking about it/meditating/etc.. it will help. It may take time, even decades, if you’re like me, but hey – what’s a better way to spend your time than to improve yourself!
Destructive patterns can be broken. We’re not doomed or destined to struggle forever!
We are all here to learn, grow, heal, and recover those parts of ourselves that are broken. To bring them back together and to be whole again. And romantic relationships are the perfect playing field for personal growth.
I hope this helps! Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
Have you ever felt an incredibly strong connection to someone that you just can’t explain? It’s great when you get to have them in your life as a friend, family member, or life partner. But when it’s not-so-great is when you’re romantically interested in them, you know they’re a soul mate, and yet it still doesn’t work out the way you’d like it to.
If this has happened or is happening to you, I’m so sorry! I know how hard it can be. Over the years I’ve worked with many people who have gone through this and helped them recover. In fact, I created an entire program specifically for women who are going through this called Get Him Off Your Mind.It offers day-by-day support to help you detach and reclaim your energy and power. It will be available in early 2020 – just click here for more info.
Soul Recognition
One of my dear clients recently had a “soul recognition” experience with a man. He’s not her type at all, and yet she is inexplicably drawn to him. So we explored it in a session, and discovered that it’s not just pheromones. The main explanation, in her case, as in that of many other women, is that she recognized him from another lifetime. Our souls recognize each other – or, in many cases, very spiritually attuned people experience soul recognition, while those who are more asleep oftentimes do not. Which makes it hard!
One of the most common ways we recognize people is by looking into their eyes. My first long term boyfriend, who I met in college, was most definitely a soulmate. I would get this tickled feeling when I looked into his eyes! They were so familiar, and they made me happy. He helped me through a very difficult time in my life, and I honestly don’t know if I would be here today if not for his support. We’re still friends, but we were not meant to be long-term life partners, and I’m very much OK with that.
Intuitive, Self-Aware Women KNOW These Things!
What I have seen happen with the highly intuitive and very self-aware women I’ve worked with is that they experience an inexplicable draw and connection to somebody and they feel certain it is meant to be. And yet, when it doesn’t work out, the resulting pain is very uncomfortable. They come to me for sessions seeking advice, healing, and closure. And what comes up in many instances is that the other, non-aware person is here trying to figure other things out. They’re on a completely different path in this incarnation.
For whatever reason, the guy needs to go it alone, to learn lessons in this life that he couldn’t learn if he was with the woman. Although he has a beautiful soul that the woman definitely recognizes, he might have a complicated personality, or be a mess at relationships.
Get Him Off Your Mind
If you have experienced or are experiencing this, know that you’re not alone! It’s very common, and it’s the entire reason I created Get Him Off Your Mind. I wanted to provide some sort of help, some type of solution to this epidemic of being attached to people who aren’t feeling the same way towards you that you feel towards them.
When you are invested in someone who’s not vibing with you, it robs you of your power and takes your energy away from yourself. It drains you! A part of your life force is entangled with theirs, and if they are not reciprocating, your energy is out there doing nothing. You need to do what is good for you and in your best interest. In most cases, that means bringing your thoughts and life force energy, or chi, back to yourself. When you do that, you become center, grounded, and powerful.
I hope this helps and makes sense!
Thank you so much for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking about someone too much, or maybe even obsessing a little about them, you are not alone. It’s a common thing that a lot of people go through, and I’ve seen it happen time and time again in my practice as an intuitive.
While it’s perfectly normal to have these experiences every now and then, it can be really difficult to cope when you find your thoughts all-encompassing, or when the person you’re thinking about is not returning your affections. When that happens, it’s a cue for you to dig deeper, focus on yourself, and heal/resolve what comes up. Oftentimes, the best thing you can do to stop the cycle of thinking about someone is to repair your self-esteem.
In fact, when I first started doing readings professionally, I had so many people coming to me with this issue that I created a program called Get Him Off Your Mind, which is basically a bootcamp to wash someone out of your system. So, again, if you are experiencing this, you are NOT alone!
Ultimately, if you work on increasing your self-worth and pulling your energy back from the other person and the perceived rejection or non-return of your attention and affection, you will be able to break the cycle.
Obsessing about someone who doesn’t return the favor doesn’t feel good. It can leave you quite angsty, with feelings of longing and rejection: feeling like you don’t have value and you don’t have worth.
In order to turn that energy around, you have to be able to feed yourself. Think about how awesome you are, what a catch you are, how amazing you are. How not being with you or noticing you is ultimately their loss. While that is easier said than done, it helps to know that, for most people, the root of these issues stem from the past; childhood events and traumas, emotion-filled experiences that cause you to feel insecure.
If you feel these issues are too much to handle or too big for you to cope with and heal on your own, by all means, work with an intuitive, a hypnotherapist, an energy healer or a traditional therapist – anyone who you trust to help you with raising your self esteem and clearing past traumas. And for the record, traumas don’t have to be one big major event; a series of little events cause trauma as well. So if, for example, you were raised by a verbally abusive person who crushed your self-worth on a steady and regular basis, that absolutely counts as a trauma and is just as damaging as one major traumatic event would be, if not more.
Aside from working with a professional to help heal and repair your self-esteem, here are some other things you can do:
Practice affirmations: Look in the mirror and say “You’re gorgeous/handsome. A catch! What an amazing, wonderful, awesome person you are!”
Write out your positive traits and read them before bed – re-program your self-esteem at bedtime
Clear your closet of old, shabby, outdated or dull items and start curating your wardrobe with items that make you look and feel your best
Do fun and entertaining physical exercise and bodywork
Eat to nourish your body
Treat yourself well and groom yourself. Your body is a temple, so treat it like one!
Learn how to do new things, get out of your comfort zone, go to new places, and treat yourself to new experiences.
Do the things that are on your bucket list. Make a bucket list if you don’t have one, and then get right to it!
Constantly re-affirm that you are amazing and awesome. Build yourself up!
Know that it is going to take time, especially if you have become so used to thinking about that person. Your thoughts are like cravings – if you can wait, they will pass, sort of like when you go on a diet. Eventually you will get better and better at conquering those cravings, and you will be OK.
And as a side note, it might help to know that you may not get the closure you’re seeking. The dignity of an explanation as to why someone stopped calling or texting or returning your affections is something not a lot of people get from the object of their desires. If this has happened to you, you can try to do some journaling and write it all out for yourself and release it, rip it up, burn it up throw it away to get all of that energy out of your system.
Then, put your attention back on yourself and raise yourself up!
If you’re looking for further resources, I created a program called Reinvent Your Self-Image to help with this too; it’s like a makeover from the inside out, with energy healings and practices and techniques to help you shift your energy and create a new outer image to match the truth of your spirit, your inner self.
Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
Signs and synchronicities are one of the easiest ways to connect to the universal force field of energy all around us. For example, when you ask for signs from your guides, you will absolutely see them: you just have to train yourself to be open and notice. I’ve seen the most incredible signs from angels and guides that just blew me away and reassured me that yes, these beings really do exist and are here to help. It’s amazing.
Signs can be confusing, though, too, especially when they’re about a potential love interest.
When you have a crush on someone, or are interested in them, you may go through a period where you see a LOT of signs and synchronicities related to that person. Maybe you see their name everywhere, or keep seeing things related to them – like references regarding where they’re from or what they’re into.
This is all fun and cool and of course very exciting, but the thing to be careful about and aware of is it doesn’t necessarily mean they are THE ONE or that you’re going to have an epic connection. Not to be a wet blanket, but sometimes when you are hyper alert and focused and excited about something, you manifest it into your life. And so when you feel like that about another person, whether you are dating them or they don’t even know you exist, you might manifest signs and symbolism and synchronicities about them into your life – but not necessarily the actual person him-or her-self.
I know it’s complicated, but cautious optimism is the best way to go in a situation like this, even if you’re getting signs left and right!
It’s like when you’re shopping for a new car: you start to see that car everywhere. It’s on your radar. You bring it into your reality, and you notice it, too, because your awareness is heightened. A similar thing can happen when you are into someone. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that that person is your twin flame/soul mate/epic love. It could just mean that you are so excited and focused that you are noticing signs related to them and/or are manifesting these signs into your reality.
And therein lies the problem! While it’s fun and exciting to get swept away, your best avenue in cases like this is to notice these signs with amusement and not get caught up in a fantasy. Control your emotions as much as you can and be neutral. I’m not saying you can’t get excited, but here’s the thing: people tend to come to me as an intuitive when things are headed south, so I am coming from the experience of helping people who say “it felt so epic and real” but then got let down in the most anguishing ways.
So that’s where I feel that even if you are getting all these signs about someone, being neutral will help you to preserve your self-esteem and to remember to keep yourself level-headed. If you get carried away, thinking “this is it, this is meant to be” because you are getting all this sensory input in your reality, you can lose a lot of time and expend a lot of unnecessary energy, all swept up with this person when they may not be ready to be in a relationship, or may not in fact be the best person for you at all.
The next time you find yourself in a situation like this, just look at the signs with detached amusement. Maybe laugh, write them down if you want to just see what happens (again from a place of neutrality), and/or set an intention to re-direct the energy to getting signs about your own personal growth and development, diverting your attention back to yourself and your highest path.
I hope that makes sense. Every person is unique and every situation is different, and while having an open heart and an sense of excitement and optimism is key, it’s also very healthy to be aware and grounded whenever you’re engaging in a new romantic situation.
Thanks for reading and watching! And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!
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