Forgiveness is something we all have to work on – forgiving others as well as ourselves. And it’s a lifelong process, to be honest with you…at least if you want to go deep, and really, truly get into that space of pure alkaline neutrality.
As we go through life and the natural aging process, not forgiving and/or resenting people and situations creates a very negative vibration that can actually cause a hardening in areas of the body, which in turn causes pain, malfunction, and disease. I’ve seen it over and over again with clients I work with, and I’ve seen it happening first hand with myself. In fact, right now I’m going through a very deep process of healing the mega horrible wounds I had from childhood.
There are many ways to work at forgiveness. But one of the easiest things to do is to cultivate, as a practice, the art of compassion on a moment-to-moment, day-by-day basis.
Compassion in conjunction with forgiveness is so helpful because it eases your anxiety and tension, softens the flow, and creates a gateway/portal to love, which is the highest vibration of all.
So how do you cultivate compassion?
It’s actually not that hard!
Just approach people with a tender heart, let your guard down, and really try to understand or think about what they might be going through. Instead of saying or thinking “You’re a jerk!” or “I don’t like the way you look, your attitude, the way you do your job, the way you’re driving” etc., take those areas or that upset feeling, look at that person, and try to understand, sympathize with, and have compassion for their lot in life. Think about what they might have gone through and how it might have affected them. Even the people who appear to have it all or are so extremely good looking that you feel like they can’t possibly know what it is to suffer, have gone through stuff.
Every human on the planet suffers. Nobody gets out scott free. We’ve all got wounds. The people who appear to be perfect, to have it all and more…if they haven’t suffered yet, they will. We all do. Sadly, it comes with the territory here on planet earth.
So, the next time someone royally pisses you off, instead of reacting and barbing out more hate, consider the fact that they are having a rotten day and you just happen to be there. Summon up all your neutrality and conjure up some empathy.
Even with the people who are the most horrible, those who have terrible behavior patterns and do awful, unforgivable things – well, maybe they are narcissists, or sociopaths, or have some other sort of psychological disorder that is actually a disability, even though they look and appear to be normal on all other fronts. Just understanding that they are fundamentally diseased can help you to cultivate compassion and forgiveness.
Ultimately, if you can look at everyone as though they are a friend – even if they are projecting this adversarial energy – that’s the place to be.
And then when you’re confronted with the big bad stuff, like the people who did you wrong or who really hurt you…no matter how bad it is…sitting in a place of compassion, and thinking about what their life experience must have been like, what they went through, can help you to soften and release. Not everyone is mature or enlightened enough to be able to treat people well or make the right choices. When you understand that, you can heal yourself and your reaction and response to them and to the damage they did to you.
When it comes to healing those deeper wounds…trust me, it takes time. A lifetime, in fact. But what else are you going to do with your time? And if you do commit to this, know that I’m right here with you doing it too. You’re not alone.
Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!🙂