Understanding Difficult People

We’ve all been in situations where we have to cope with difficult people. The worst is when some people are so challenging that they get us all out of whack. In situations like this, rather than condemn them, if we seek to understand why they behave the way they do, it can help us grow on so many different levels.

It’s pretty easy to dislike a person, put up a wall, react with anger, and maybe run away so we never have to encounter that person again. Sometimes, though, these people just keep coming. It could be the same person, a few people, or that same type of personality/interaction that keeps showing up in life.

If someone is triggering us, or they are just a real jerk, it really does help to take a few steps back and look at why they could be behaving the way they are. That’s where being psychic blends so beautifully with personal and spiritual growth. It can help us understand things we might never have known – perhaps some difficult people have personality disorders, or they had traumatic childhoods. When we see things from the vantage point of understanding, we are more easily able to release that charge that infuriates us about the other person.

We don’t have to accept rotten behavior, but when we seek to understand, it tends to soften things and that knowledge and understanding creates an unshakeable foundation. We may not have such an angry reaction, because we understand them and see them.

What’s important is that we do not have to force ourselves to be around people who behave terribly. In fact, I’d say do the work to heal and understand, and if it’s still bad, by all means leave if you can. There’s no need to suffer endlessly because of another person’s behavior and actions!

Ultimately, understanding where others are coming from just creates more peace. It’s a nice way to be in general, don’t you think? I’ve also found that  this approach can help us cycle out of negative patterns where difficult types of people keep coming in, and leads us to more joyful relationships. What a relief, right?!?

Are there people in your life who are just so challenging to be around? Have you looked into why they are that way? Please share in the comments!

Thanks so much for reading and watching, and I’ll see you next time!