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There are so many pathways to increase self-love, but one of the greatest is forgiveness. And not just of other people! Forgiving yourself is a HUGE undertaking that will open the flow of unconditional self-love.

Forgiveness is not easy. When people flippantly say “forgive and forget” it can trivialize the issue and make it even harder to work through. What I’ve seen over the years is that forgiveness really is a deep process that is all about YOU. When you forgive people who have done terrible things to you, you detach from the energy exchange. You free yourself. Forget about them – this is about you. Forgiveness is not condoning, it’s just understanding and releasing.

Many of us have shame about things we did or didn’t do, and it’s important to forgive ourselves, too. We didn’t know then what we did now. We are human. We make mistakes. It’s a part of the process. Some things we may not be able to forgive ourselves for are the very lessons we needed to learn! Earth is a school, first and foremost. It’s all about trial and error.

The energy of non-forgiveness creates a congestion in the heart center, which blocks the flow of love that can come in and go out. Who needs that!?!

Have you experienced more freedom in forgiving others? How about forgiving yourself? Please share!

Thanks so much for reading and watching, and I’ll see you next time.

When you are on the spiritual path and working on healing yourself, one of the best things you can do is forgive those who have hurt you. Not so the other person feels better, but so you are released from the pain that was created and the damage that was done to you.

Forgiving Bullies

Many of us sensitive people have been hurt by bullies. It’s a trigger issue for me, because I’ve been bullied. I know how painful and horrible it is. Bullies are scary. When you’re in a home or work environment where you can’t easily escape, it’s a matter of life and death. So the forgiveness of bullies is an extra powerful exercise for spiritual growth.

How can you possibly forgive a horrible, mean person like a bully?

Escape First

Obviously, getting away from (or stopping) a bully is the top priority. Earlier this year, my son told me an older boy at his school was bullying him, and recruited 3 other little boys to the cause. I immediately called the principal, who nipped it in the bud. In some cases, though, bullies won’t stop. The only recourse is to get far away from them. Once you’ve escaped, you can begin to heal the damage that was done to you.

How to Heal

The most gentle way of dealing with the fallout from bullies is to understand what happened to them and why they behave that way. Understanding is like a soothing balm on a wound, and it immediately reduces inflammation and starts the healing process.

Some bullies are just downright evil people. Everything is not all roses out there, and some humans actually delight in torturing other people. Others have psychological disorders for which there is no cure. If you can understand that they are sick, as are the evil people, you can release them with compassion and forgiveness because they know not what they do. They are ill.

Other bullies were abused as children or adults, and feel threatened by you and your light. They are acting out because they’re in pain. Their self-esteem is so low that they thrive on taking others down.

The Writing Process

There are other reasons people bully, of course. One of the most profound and powerful ways you can heal AND boost your intuitive skills is to journal. Write out why the person acts the way they do. Create it like a story. Chances are, you will be more accurate than you could ever begin to believe. And this writing process is very healing. You will hit on powerful truths.

You can then write “I release you, and I forgive you. You will not longer hurt me” or something to that effect. And if you want to make a ceremony out of it, burn the story about the person, and burn your note of forgiveness. Do this when the moon is waning, and you will have a powerful releasing process.

The act of forgiveness of a bully is serious work. And it’s important, because it releases you from being a victim. When you forgive, you lock in your true power. You are safe and protected. And that means you have the power to advocate for others who are being bullied. Together we can overcome this on a global scale.

I hope that makes sense and helps. If you have been or are being bullied, my heart goes out to you. Thanks so much for reading and watching.

Forgiveness is something we all have to work on – forgiving others as well as ourselves. And it’s a lifelong process, to be honest with you…at least if you want to go deep, and really, truly get into that space of pure alkaline neutrality.

As we go through life and the natural aging process, not forgiving and/or resenting people and situations creates a very negative vibration that can actually cause a hardening in areas of the body, which in turn causes pain, malfunction, and disease. I’ve seen it over and over again with clients I work with, and I’ve seen it happening first hand with myself. In fact, right now I’m going through a very deep process of healing the mega horrible wounds I had from childhood.

There are many ways to work at forgiveness. But one of the easiest things to do is to cultivate, as a practice, the art of compassion on a moment-to-moment, day-by-day basis.

Compassion in conjunction with forgiveness is so helpful because it eases your anxiety and tension, softens the flow, and creates a gateway/portal to love, which is the highest vibration of all.

So how do you cultivate compassion?

It’s actually not that hard!

Just approach people with a tender heart, let your guard down, and really try to understand or think about what they might be going through. Instead of saying or thinking “You’re a jerk!” or “I don’t like the way you look, your attitude, the way you do your job, the way you’re driving” etc., take those areas or that upset feeling, look at that person, and try to understand, sympathize with, and have compassion for their lot in life. Think about what they might have gone through and how it might have affected them. Even the people who appear to have it all or are so extremely good looking that you feel like they can’t possibly know what it is to suffer, have gone through stuff.

Every human on the planet suffers. Nobody gets out scott free. We’ve all got wounds. The people who appear to be perfect, to have it all and more…if they haven’t suffered yet, they will. We all do. Sadly, it comes with the territory here on planet earth.

So, the next time someone royally pisses you off, instead of reacting and barbing out more hate, consider the fact that they are having a rotten day and you just happen to be there. Summon up all your neutrality and conjure up some empathy.

Even with the people who are the most horrible, those who have terrible behavior patterns and do awful, unforgivable things – well, maybe they are narcissists, or sociopaths, or have some other sort of psychological disorder that is actually a disability, even though they look and appear to be normal on all other fronts. Just understanding that they are fundamentally diseased can help you to cultivate compassion and forgiveness.

Ultimately, if you can look at everyone as though they are a friend –  even if they are projecting this adversarial energy – that’s the place to be.

And then when you’re confronted with the big bad stuff, like the people who did you wrong or who really hurt you…no matter how bad it is…sitting in a place of compassion, and thinking about what their life experience must have been like, what they went through, can help you to soften and release. Not everyone is mature or enlightened enough to be able to treat people well or make the right choices. When you understand that, you can heal yourself and your reaction and response to them and to the damage they did to you.

When it comes to healing those deeper wounds…trust me, it takes time. A lifetime, in fact. But what else are you going to do with your time? And if you do commit to this, know that I’m right here with you doing it too. You’re not alone.

Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything in your life that you would like assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out!🙂

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