Karmic Relationships and the Shadow Self

This week’s topic is about romantic relationships, and how certain relationships bring our shadow side to the forefront so that we can heal that part of ourselves. A friend asked me to talk about it, after having an experience that was exactly like this.

Earth School

One of the most important reasons we are here on this planet is to learn and grow. To make mistakes and learn from them, and to forgive ourselves and others. Ultimately, from a karmic standpoint, we are here to evolve into a state of pure, calm, unconditional love and freedom from the wheel of life.

Romance = Earth School 101

An ideal playing field for this is our romantic relationships. In many cases, another person will reflect back to us the parts that need healing, like an unsettling funhouse mirror. Contrary to the name, this kind of mirror is not fun at all. However, it’s a really helpful way to bring things that are holding us back, into the light.

If we can look at the issues the other person triggers with a healthy dose of curiosity, we can make a lot of progress. The question-asking process is so helpful in this. Questions like “What am I meant to learn from this?” and “Why did that happen?” and, most importantly, “Why does this KEEP happening?” are the best ones to ask.

Patterns are NOT Doomed to Repeat

The moment you see there is a pattern repeating itself, you’re halfway there to breaking it. You’re not doomed to keep continuing the same thing over and over again for the rest of your life. How boring would that be?

A lot of the healing process is about introspection, either on your own, or with a therapist or energy healer or intuitive. The ultimate concept to work in is to see yourself as a mirrored magnet, and realize that you’re magnetizing in certain people and situations that reflect to you how you feel about yourself. If you come to a place of loving yourself thoroughly and completely, you’ll likely bring in people who reflect that to you.

The beautiful thing about this is that it’s a fluid process. There will always be new changes and new situations to focus on, which provide new opportunities for greater growth and deeper understandings of our meaning and purpose in the world.

Phew! A somewhat heavy topic…but I hope this makes sense and helps.

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