This week I’m continuing the discussion about how to get someone off your mind when you’re really obsessed. Meaning, you can’t stop thinking about him, it consumes your every waking moment, and you know it’s not healthy and it’s not good for you. But for some reason, you just can’t break the cycle.
It’s a Pandemic!
When I learned how to be psychic and to do readings over a decade ago, I had no idea what people would predominately be coming to me to talk about. My first official job in this field was in a popular healing center in Los Angeles. And this was the #1 thing that women grappled with – how to stop obsessing about the men in their lives. Woman of all ages, all ethnic backgrounds, and from all walks of life would come in for sessions seeking clarity and advice regarding men, and how to detach from them.
Because the dilemma was so prevalent, I started thinking about deeper ways in which I could help. Many of the techniques I use in clairvoyant readings are actually energy healing tools. So I gathered all of my resources and created a program called Get Him Off Your Mind that’s chock full of tips, tools, and powerful healing exercises to help women through that process.
Focus on His Flaws
One of the more basic things I cover in the course is to focus on his inherent flaws. When we fall into the cycle of obsessing, we tend to see the guy through a one-dimensional lens or filter. We only think about how much we want him and how attracted we are to him. All of our focus goes to imagining how awesome he is. When we don’t hear from him, we think he’s off doing amazing things. We want to marry the guy but we don’t even know the subtle intricacies of what he is really like.
We are so powerful!! We build up this beautifully charged image of what we would like the guy to be based on what he shows us in the initial stages. To see things more realistically, it helps us a great deal to focus on his flaws. We are more able to calm down, neutralize the image we built up of him, and detach.
A Super Easy Exercise
If you happen to be in this situation, i.e. you know it’s not good for you but you just can’t stop, first of all know you’re not alone. Many, many people go through this, so don’t get down on yourself – just get him off your mind! Here are some easy ways to diminish his influence in your energy field:
- Actively look for his flaws and be realistic! Don’t settle or make excuses.
- Make a list of pros and cons, and work really hard on those cons!
- Imagine what his flaws are (and your intuition will kick in here, so trust yourself)
- Ask your friends to help you think of his flaws – friends are great at this!
The point with this simple exercise is to be able to see the guy for who he really is, and not who you want him to be. We tend to charge up this image of who we would LOVE the man to be, but it’s not real. We are creating and plugging into an avatar of the guy, something that’s not necessarily realistic, and then fantasize about that, setting ourselves up for a letdown in the end.
It’s a basic exercise, but it does help. And ultimately, the goal is to free up our energy so that we can focus on ourselves, our health, careers, and our life in general.
For more info on the program, which will be released in early 2020, check out http://www.gethimoffyourmind.com.