OK Ladies…I’m tackling a big one here.

The video above is long, and it starts out with some general reasons why men lie and/or fall off the face of the planet. Towards the end, in the last 5-7 minutes or so, I talk about more specific tips and ways you can cope, so if you want to fast forward to that, by all means do.

In the work that I do, I HAVE HEARD IT ALL. Nothing surprises me anymore. And guess what? Many men (and I am sure women too) out there are lying, cheating, and falling off of the face of the planet at an alarming rate. Sometimes, when I’m not feeling centered, I wonder if there are any good ones left. It’s certainly a question many clients ask on an almost daily basis.

To sum it up, men aren’t necessarily lying or falling off the face of the planet to spite and hurt YOU specifically. It’s more about a bigger theme and way in which they have learned how to deal with women, either through their home environment, or from previous relationships.

And how can you cope with it? Whether you were in love with someone who lied to you, cheated, and/or disappeared, or if something was just starting to show promise and then it fell apart, I know it hurts. First, trust that you are not alone. Second, get help – from a friend, therapist, or healer. Third, meditate and blast clearing white light of your spirit merging with God source through the core of your being and out into your aura to clear you of bad vibes and negative effects. If you can talk to the guy, let him know that lying doesn’t work for you. If you can’t, try to get into a place of understanding and forgiveness, so that you can release him and your relationship, and move on with your life.

Together we are strong. And when we put our collective feet down and demand that men treat us with honor and dignity, things will start to change. It might take time…but things will change. They have to.

Remember, I’m also here to do readings, healings, and spiritual coaching – so don’t hesitate to contact me for a session at ask@krishanti.com.

Well, all planets have moved direct now, which means things should be shifting and we might all be collectively feeling at least slightly better these days.

In this week’s video, I chat about 3 ways you can get a guy off your mind. After I learned how to do readings and energy healings, I worked at a healing center in Los Angeles, and nearly every single woman who came in for a session had a question about how to stop obsessing over a guy. The problem was so prevalent that I created a program to help with it – Get Him Off Your Mind in 28 Days.

Having a crush on someone is fun, and totally normal. But when you really start to get into someone and then that person doesn’t reciprocate – like when you had what you thought was a great date and then you never hear from him again…or when you sleep with him and then he tells you he’s not ready for a relationship…or when you’re texting like crazy and then he just falls off the face of the earth…things can feel pretty ugly.

Women are beginning to reclaim our power, but old patterns die hard. This video just briefly talks about 3 ways to get him off your mind, but the bigger picture is about how and why we feel we need men to complete us, or why we imagine them to be waaaaay better than they really are.

If you are in this situation or ever have been, I hope this video helps. And if you know someone in this situation, please forward it to them.

Remember, I’m also here to do readings, healings, and spiritual coaching – so don’t hesitate to contact me for a session at ask@krishanti.com.

I can’t tell you how many women come to see me with questions about the men who are (or are not, or are, but tenuously so) in their lives. Women from all walks of life, from wholesome to exotic, from plain to drop-dead gorgeous, college students, entrepreneurs, psychologists, models and high-powered executives, all have one very troubling thing in common: they can’t get certain men out of their heads. It’s like there’s some weird pull that takes place, some mysterious energetic force, and the next thing you know, women are booking appointments to find out what he’s thinking, if he’s thinking of them, why he hasn’t texted, when he’ll call again, what his deal is. And each time I check out the dude, he’s just, like, ho-hum. Not complex, not worried about it, and, in the case of the guy who’s not returning texts or phone calls, just not really thinking too much about the woman in general.

It leads us back to the heart of the matter, which is the fact that it’s just not comfortable to have someone on your mind so much. If you find yourself focusing on someone who’s not as invested in you as you are in him, the healthiest thing to do is to get him out of your head. While that’s easier said than done, here are 3 techniques that have worked well for me, my friends, and many of my clients:

1. Realize that you’re building him up to be much, much more than he really is:
One of my favorite clients ever is Mina. She’s a super cute, successful Asian American business woman with a petite frame, an excellent sense of style, a spark in her eyes and a great sense of humor. Mina was hooked on a guy she’d had a few dates with, but who was playing hard to get with her. When we looked into him in a session, I saw him as much less enticing than he seems. He eats TV dinners, surfs the internet too much (hint, hint), works too much, and isn’t that adventurous. I worked with Mina to clear the image she has of him as the perfect partner she can’t have because he’s not committing to her, and to see the truth of who he really is. You can do this, too. Just think of all of his flaws, and recruit your friends to help. Years ago, I had a crush on a guy who drove the most absurd car ever. That would be my go-to image to get him off my mind. It worked.

2. Whenever he pops up in your head, replace his image with something else:
Very recently, I met with a very lovely woman who was trying to get over a really handsome man who had essentially dumped her and then immediately started dating someone else. She was so hurt, and what hurt her even more was the fact that she just couldn’t get him off her mind. This technique takes a ton of effort, but it worked for her, and I know it can be done. Realize that focusing on him too much is the equivalent of watching bad TV. It’s not good for you, but sometimes it can be addictive; you don’t like it, but you go to it out of habit. So make a concerted effort to switch the channel in your head to something else. Think about someone you’d like more (movie stars work well here). You can also just force yourself to focus only on what you’re doing; that’s called mindfulness and it takes practice, so why not use this time to start? You can also imagine there’s a door in your head, then shove him out of that door and shut it. Your head is your space, and he doesn’t belong there.

3. Utilize this standard clairvoyant healing method to release his energy from yours:
Sit in a quiet place, close your eyes, and bring your attention to your third eye. Now visualize a screen out in front of you, and on that screen, create a clear rose, and ask it to fill with the color of your own true vibration. Give that rose a nice, strong stem that burrows deeply into the earth. Next, ask the rose to show you a color or colors that represent where his energy is running through your vibration. Ask those colors that represent his energy to release down the stem of the rose into the earth, and watch as they drain out of the rose. Now fill the rose up with even more of the color of your true vibration. Then imagine you’re taking that rose out of the screen and hold it over your head. See it explode into a million pieces and shower your body and aura with your own true energy.
For more techniques like this, check out Debra Katz’s work.

On a subtle energetic level, other people sense when we’re thinking about them. The more you obsess about him, the more uncomfortable he will be, and this will make him want to avoid you like the plague! If you really want a man to contact you, the best thing to do is disconnect. Just leave him alone, be done, move on! This worked for one of my clients who was sort of involved with a professional athlete. She noticed that he’d text or message her even more when she very strongly and clearly stopped thinking about him. I’m not saying this will make him want to be with you forever and ever, but I have seen cases where it really is beneficial. So get a manicure, go shopping, sign up for a dance class and take a weekend trip. Do whatever it takes to re-direct your thoughts and energy to get him out of your head!