I am sure you’ve heard the phrase “what’s your story” or, if you’re working on improving yourself and your life, the healing method whereby you re-write the story of your life.

We all have a story; our lives are stories. What is your story like? Is it the kind you’d love to read? Or are you telling yourself, and everyone around you, a story that diminishes you or keeps you in a pattern or cycle that is less than positive?

If you are in a scenario that’s not so great and you want to change it, the first thing to do is to look at it as though it is nothing but a pretend story. What are you telling people about yourself and your life? What do you talk about all the time? What are you thinking about? How are you perpetuating this story?

Many of us wear our stories like a cloak around our bodies. They become interwoven with our aura, and therefore these stories literally become US. But if we stop talking about the stories, stop complaining about them, and stop being them, we can remove that cloak and don a new, sparkling cape that tells a different story.

Life is all about cycles, patterns, eras. And the biggest thing about these cycles and patterns and eras is that they can all come to an end. They can mutate, shift, and transform. We can choose to end patterns, become different people, and improve our lives. It just takes a concerted effort and a willingness to shed the old skin in order to make way for new growth.

It’s not like we’re getting rid of ourselves, our core being – it’s an upgrade. If you want a laugh, I made this video (in which I talk about getting rid of physical objects when I did The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up earlier this year) wearing a dress that I got in high school. It’s one of the few clothing relics from that era and I kept it to remind myself that I can change, and be a new and improved version of myself, but still retain that part of me that was young and hopeful and wore a silly yellow dress from a vintage store with red lipstick. In essence, still be me. Does that make sense?

I have done a lot of work on re-writing the story of my life, and little by little, it has made a difference. There are two easy ways you can do it. One is doing a hypnotic regression or guided meditation where you go back to your childhood and change the really traumatic things and make yourself feel better. Another involves associating with a new archetypal image and imagining you are that god or goddess or superhero. Both have been amazing for me – so try them if you are so inclined! All it takes is a little time and imagination.

If you are interested in healing and transforming your life, remember I’m always here to help, with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out! 🙂


Happy ALMOST New Year!!!!!

2016 is just about all wrapped up and this is a great time to take stock, reflect, and focus on what you want to create in 2017.

And with all the family get-togethers that tend to happen over the holidays, I thought it would be apropos to have a bookcase chat about when people in your life aren’t treating you the way you want to be treated. Maybe they’re not returning phone calls or texts, or aren’t showing up for you in one form or another. Or perhaps they’re not hearing you, or connecting with you, or giving you the respect you deserve. Whatever the case is, reframing the way you think about the situation will definitely help.
The most useful and proactive thing to do when you start to feel badly about the way someone is acting is to take a few steps back and look at their life objectively, asking yourself questions like:

What is going on with them right now?

What types of things happened in their past that could cause them to act like this now?

Is there something else that is possibly going on that you aren’t aware of? 

Are other people perhaps noticing the same type of behavior?

This type of thoughtful, neutral, compassionate probing will help you to see the situation with a new sense of clarity, so you hopefully don’t take it so personally (which is what causes pain).

If you can process it all, you will probably notice some themes happening with that person, and be able to realize that it’s not all about you, and you can then choose to talk to them, or to wait it out from a place of love and see what happens.

Another thing that came up as I was thinking about this topic is when you notice that A LOT of people in your life seem to be treating you a certain way that you dislike. And in that case, you can do the same thing I mentioned above, and take it a step further by really looking at yourself and noticing what these behaviors are saying about YOU and how you might need to heal and make big changes in your life. This could mark the need to end a powerful cycle or pattern, to create a shift so that you can continue to evolve and grow at a higher vibrational level.

Whatever the case may be, if you look at the situation as neutrally as possible, you’ll remove the drama and suffering that comes from hurt feelings, which will help you get through it all the more easily.

Everyone acts oddly at some point or another, and patience, compassion, and love for yourself and for other people will absolutely help transform and heal the situation.