Do you ever wonder what you’re HERE for? Everyone has a different life path, purpose, and overall “raison d’être.” For the most part, though, specific details aside, we’re all here to leave the world a better place than it was when we arrived.

Does that mean inventing something that changes lives? How about saving the planet? Maybe discovering a cure for a life-threatening disease? It could.

But one of the simplest and easiest ways you can establish what you are here for while making a lasting impact in the world is by simply helping others.

And by helping others I don’t mean joining the Peace Corps or toiling away in a soup kitchen every weekend, although volunteering is a wonderful thing to do (and my guides offer it a LOT as a suggestion to help people who are feeling sad, lost, or stuck in a rut).

Helping others can come in all types of ways, including being fully present and engaged, in person, with the people you share your life with: family, friends, and those you interact with on a daily basis.

In the video above, I talk about how my favorite aunt took a vested interest in me and my life path after my mom dramatically cut us off from her entire family when I was a kid, and then died of cancer. Despite how hurtful that was, my aunt became determined to find out what had happened to us and even hired a private detective to get intel. That is how she discovered that my mom had died and I was living with my father (from whom my mother had also been estranged, but luckily the Department of Child Services found him).

My aunt was (and continues to be) a steady force through all of my years of healing, seeing me through the rest of my teens and 20’s, always there for me no matter what. She sent letters and care packages, arranged trips, and was always there when I needed her, listening to me complain and cry and struggle my way through college, work life, and more. Her guidance helped me heal. She was there, and she was steady.

She inspired me to become a healer (she herself is an incredible therapist and healer). Her actions spread light – and then inspired me to shine brightly again and share my light with others.

I don’t know if I would be where I am today if not for her.

So you see? Just by taking an interest in the lives of others, by being available and loving, you can make a HUGE difference in the world and leave it a better place than it was when you arrived. We are all interconnected, and the more of us looking out for another – well, it creates this effect. The love and the light spreads.

Thanks for reading and watching. And remember, if there’s anything if your life that you need assistance with, I’m here to help with readings, energy healings, on-demand meditations and my psychic development training program. So just reach out! 🙂


One of the most common questions I hear in sessions is: “What is my purpose in life?”

And it’s almost ALWAYS related to making money and career.

But there are so many other reasons we’re here that have nothing to do with money whatsoever, and if we can just acknowledge that and embrace it, our souls will grow by leaps and bounds, and enlightenment will be something that actually feels attainable, vs. this concept that only monks and highly spiritual people have access to or can reach.

Your purpose for being here is not just about how you earn your money. And if you follow your truth, and work with your talents and gifts, you’ll both learn, and teach, important lessons that can help with the evolution of everyone on this planet.

Here’s an example, albeit a small one:

As a person who has been bullied, both within my family and at a couple of different office jobs, I am firmly opposed to bullying, and committed to doing what I can to speak out about it and to stop it from being tolerated.

This morning, Ivan insisted on wearing a knitted beanie with all these planets and stars on it (even though it’s like 100 degrees in October here in LA). Under his hat, he tucked a mini flashlight, so he had this flashlight hidden on top of his head under his hat. Genius!

When we got to school, his frenemy Michael pointed to the hat and started laughing, because it looked odd and funny. Ivan’s face totally changed from excited and confident to scared and sad. Why was Michael laughing at him? Michael went to get Mark, who is a sweet-natured boy, to tell him Ivan looked funny today. I was kind of just standing there watching it all, and without thinking, I looked at Mark, then Michael, and I said “Hey, guys! Ivan has the coolest hat on today and he’s hiding something really funny underneath it. Mark, come see!” and instead of making fun, suddenly both of them looked intreagued and interested, and Ivan then showed them the flashlight, which they loved, and wanted to play with. The whole scene changed in an instant and I ducked out while Mark and Michael marveled over the ingenuity of Ivan’s getup.

Granted, toddlers are easily influenced, but the whole scenario made me think about teasing, and bullying, and how children can be taught to be kind to each other, and how that can make them grow up into adults who are caring and thoughtful. So many grownups love to gossip, to say negative things about each other, and that’s just so ugly and low-vibrational. What gives? and what’s the point? It’s just mean and small-minded.

My life experiences have fed my beliefs that smack-talking and bullying are negative and unproductive, and now one of my purposes is to do what I can, in whatever little way I can, to influence people to NOT be like that. I, too, try to be diligent about not gossiping, criticizing, or judging others.

You purpose is never just about work. It’s about all the gifts you have and how you share them, about what you bring to the table in life. Maybe you give great hugs and make people feel better. Perhaps you love your animals and give them a good life. Maybe your belief in treating the planet better influences others to do the same, and we end up restoring the vibration of the earth. In any event, you are here for a reason, and every little thing you do makes a difference, even if you can’t see it right away.


How to Find Your Purpose

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Every soul-searching person on this planet has pondered these questions at one point or another:

“Why am I here?”

“What’s the point of all of this?”

“What’s my purpose?”

I spent the first half of my life wondering these things, and every now and then I still wonder if I’m on the right track. Though I am intuitive and can get amazing insights, I’m also humble, and I wouldn’t dare to presume to know everything there is to know.

Many of the people who come see me for sessions ask about their purpose in life. What I’ve found most interesting, though, is that people who ask this in appointments aren’t so much seeking overall fulfillment in life in general, as they are asking “What can I do for money that will make me feel happy and make a difference in the world?”

Career Purpose vs. General Purpose

So in searching for your purpose, you have to first get clear on that one HUGE issue: are you seeking purpose career-wise, or just life-in-general-wise?

Career Purpose

If you’re looking for ways to find your purpose career-wise, answer the following questions:

What do I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to do?

Would I want to do any of these things as a JOB, or keep them as a hobby?

What am I good at? Like, REALLY good at? 

What do other people always say I’m good at?

Do I like working alone, or with others?

Do I like working inside, or outside? For a big company, or a small organization? 

Do I want to work for other people, or for myself?

What does my SOUL want and need?

Just sit with your answers for a while, meditate on where you see yourself, and then write out any ideas and insights you might have. You can also get the classic book, “What Color is your Parachute?” to help fine-tune your direction. Another thing that’s helpful is the Myers-Briggs Personality Test. That will help give you insight into the type of person you are and what fulfills you emotionally, which is super helpful when it comes to choosing a career you love.

General Purpose

If you’re trying to figure out the point of your struggles, triumphs and relationships with others and with yourself, ask yourself these questions:

What themes keep coming up in my life? Are there certain patterns that keep repeating themselves?

What do I seriously struggle with all the time?

What could I do to be happier?

What could I do to help bring happiness to the world around me?

What do I love to do?

What would I love to do to be of service to others?

What are my greatest strengths?

What are my greatest weaknesses?

 Meditate on the answers you get to these questions, and as you get to that deep, quiet state, try and connect with your higher self. As you do, just ask the question “Who am I?” and just try and get a sense of the true nature of your spirit. Your spirit can show you the answers as to why you’re here, what your big lessons are (the things you struggle with) and how to overcome them, what karma you need to resolve, and how you can evolve and grow.

We are all here for a reason, and everyone has not one, but a multitude of purposes. Finding out who you really are, and what your purposes are, can be one of the most fulfilling things you do in this lifetime, and put you straight on the path of spiritual growth and progress.

If you need help with figuring things out, email me to set up an appointment. I’m here to help!


I had an off day yesterday

It was one of those days where you question your whole life’s purpose. What am I doing? Why am I doing it? And is it what I really SHOULD be doing?

You know the kind of day I’m talking about, right? One of those days when you have a Crisis of Confidence.

Crisis of Confidence

But let me provide some context for my own personal “Crisis of Confidence.” My work – which is really all about helping people – is essentially based in spirituality: the whole mind-body-spirit connection, if you will. But I don’t particularly feel or look like a spiritual person. In my mind’s eye, a spiritual person looks like a monk, or a shaman, or a prophet. And here I am, looking like another regular old person off the street.

To compound matters, I don’t always feel like a spiritual person. 

Practical Matters 

I’m a mom and a wife, and that takes up a LOT of my time. And when I’m busy being a mommy and wife – cleaning, running errands, cooking dinner, taking my son to the park, seeing friends and family – I don’t always necessarily feel connected to my spirituality. Whereas I imagine a spiritual person would spend most of their day meditating, walking contemplatively, and dutifully executing their spiritual service. I realize that’s an exaggeration, but nevertheless it’s stuck in my mind. 

Identity Crisis 

But perhaps the more telling aspect of my crisis is that I don’t WANT to be a spiritual person all the time.

Here again, I imagine, on one hand a sombre monk or nun, and on the other a crunchy, granola-y hippie-sh type of person. Certainly not the kind of people who would appreciate my irreverent sense of humor, or my shopping-happy bargain hunting, or my love for binge watch trashy TV (Netflix + Pretty Little Liars = my downtime), or drinking coffee and wine. No, the sombre group would be in prayer or at church.

And the hippie-ish group would be eating ONLY vegan food (which I love, just not all the time), doing yoga faithfully, and wearing only free-trade garments as they glide through the forest. 

Spiritual Hypocrisy 

I’ve also noticed that a lot of spiritual people are full of baloney.

They act like they are super spiritual. But really they’re just as chock full of faults and bad behaviors and negative thoughts as everyone else.

My mom followed her own sort of spiritual “guru” for years when I was little. And that woman was a total hypocrite, which I realized even then.

She prayed, meditated, read the bible, sang spiritual songs really loud, and did all sorts of “spiritual” things. Then she’d turn around and talk crap about everyone, criticizing the whole world and everyone in it for not being good enough.

And the motives of more than a few modern day “spiritual icons” seem less than selfless. A lot of them seem like image-obsessed, shameless self-promoters, hungry for wealth and fame. Everyone thinks they’re so TOGETHER and EVOLVED because of their spiritual persona and public success. But if you do a little digging, you discover their lives are just as messed up as the average “regular person.” 

Just a Regular Person (Not a Spiritual Guru) 

I guess my point with all of this is: I’m just a regular person. I’m not more spiritual or holy than anyone else. I’m just NOT.

That’s why I constantly reiterate that I LEARNED to do readings and energy healings. And I didn’t do it because I’m pious or hippie-sh or seeking fame and fortune. It was just a natural extension of my personal search for emotional healing, life purpose, and an attempt to understand the nature of life and the universe as a whole.

By doing readingss and healings, I’m learning a lot about life, and the human struggle, and lots about the nature of reality. Writing about those discoveries and sharing them is fun and enlightening. 

Doing readings and energy healings doesn’t have to a spiritual practice. But when you enter an altered state of mind, you often forget about being human, and you enter into the raw flow of information, which can be incredibly revealing. The quantum field of energy connects you with the universe’s flow, and the connection opens windows and doors of the collective unconscious. 

Crisis Averted 

In any event, my crisis is over for now. I feel like as long as I stay humble, and true to the path, things will be fine. I can be a regular person with spiritual interests, but I don’t have to become a nun or go live on a mountaintop just yet.


5 Ways to Find Your Purpose

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A lot of people ask me what their life’s purpose is. It’s a hugely important question, one which I grappled with for years before I started doing the work I do now. While almost all of us are concerned about our life’s purpose as it relates to the work we do to earn a living, purpose is not something that’s limited to making money. For example, a mother of three I met with recently was discouraged about her career path, and wanted desperately to know what her purpose was. One of the first things that came through in her reading was that her soul’s most pressing purpose was to be an excellent mother, which she was doing so naturally, so effortlessly, that she took it for granted, and didn’t see it for the incredibly important life purpose that it was. Career-wise, it appeared she had many creative talents, and could make a great living as an entrepreneur by marketing and selling her ingenious craft ideas. She just had to commit to doing it, and trust that her talents could support her; that was half the battle.

My friend Carolyn, who is a very talented artist, asked the famous psychic, teacher, and author Sonia Choquette what her purpose was, and Sonia told her that it was to bring joy into other’s lives. Carolyn thought and thought about this, and we talked about it a lot, because she couldn’t quite figure out how that related to making money. And yet, one of the reasons I, and many of her friends and family, adore her is that she brings joy into our lives. Just being around her makes me happy. On top of that, her art is beautiful, and every time I look at the painting she gave me, it soothes my spirit. So, just being the way she naturally is, is a part of her purpose. Her art is so beautiful and uplifting that she can make a living selling it, so she’s also focusing on that right now.

It’s very simple, but essentially, your purpose is YOU. It’s built into the very fabric of your being. Sometimes it’s hard to translate that over into real-life experience, though, so here are 5 ways to find out just what your purpose is:

1. What do you love? What does your spirit love?

2. Ask your closest friends and family members, those you love and respect the most, what they like best about you, what they think you’re good at. Think about things you’ve succeeded at in the past – those that were easy for you, as well as those that were challenging. What are you the most proud of? What makes you feel good about yourself?

3. Dream up your perfect week. What do you do each day? What are you doing for work? Where do you live? What is your home life like?

4. If you had all the money in the world, what would you do with your time? What charities would you give back to?

5. Be bold, be brave, and chart your own course. Stop putting things off because they seem impossible, and start taking action today. If you hate your day job, create your exit strategy, and do it now. You don’t have to quit and risk being homeless, but you can make changes that will help you support yourself in the future. Get up at 5am and work on your novel, or stay up late to finalize the business plan for your own company. There’s no such thing as “not enough time.” If there’s a will, there’s a way.

Some people seem to be born knowing just what their purpose is. But for others, it takes a lot of time, energy, and faith that you’re heading in the right direction. You must stay true to what you believe in, and hold the very essence of what you want your life to be like in your consciousness as much as possible. The more you concentrate on the feeling of what you want your life experience to be, the closer you will get to creating it. You may not figure it all out at once in a stunning “A-ha!” moment that parts the skies, but, little by little, it will come together, and one day you will realize that you are loving your life and living your purpose. And more of those days will follow.




My Story

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I always thought it would be SO COOL to be psychic. To know what was going to happen, what people were really thinking, if embarking on some new endeavor would be good or bad in the long run. I never really thought I was or could ever be psychic, though. I thought psychic people were born knowing they were psychic. Born seeing weird things no-one else saw, knowing things no-one else knew. I kind of assumed psychics were people with a “special gift”, people descended from a long lineage of psychics or something like that.

I’ve always loved the idea of magic and fairy tales and the possibility that there was “something more” to everyday life. But whatever that “something more” was, completely eluded me. I went to school, went to college, got jobs, got married. It wasn’t until my friend paid for me to have a clairvoyant reading when I visited her in Boulder, Colorado, that I realized what that “something more” was. I’d never really had a big-time reading – just visited a couple of storefront psychics with friends. So this was a new experience for me.

The reading happened at a place called Psychic Horizons, where, my friend said, they taught people how to access their intuitive powers. The reading only cost $20 because it was given by students of the program.

I went in with only one question in mind. I wanted to know what the purpose of my life was. I wasn’t allowed to verbally state this or any question, but somehow the two people doing the reading picked up on it. And they started talking about what it was I was here to do, all in wonderful kind of allegorical ways, speaking in terms of imagery and feelings and colors and, believe it or not, roses. I didn’t care. They were on to something. The reading lasted over an hour and by the end I felt completely transformed. I knew, and yet I didn’t know…and then again, I did know and I felt really, really different, and very good. It’s almost too difficult to explain. But something definitely shifted. I felt it, and they felt it. It was really magical. Seriously.

The next day, we went to the Boulder library and I stumbled upon a book called “The Psychic Pathway” by Sonia Choquette. I started reading it and showed my friend, who checked it out from the library. I returned home to LA two days later and told my aunt about the reading and the book, which she happened to have a copy of (I had no idea!), and which she she sent to me. I read the book from cover to cover, and started to do the exercises in it.

And believe it or not, I became psychic. Or, to use a term I’m more comfortable with, Intuitive. I found more books and more resources, including my very own teacher, Debra Katz, who taught me how to work with my clairvoyance, clairsentience, and clairaudience. I started giving practice readings to friends and family, and then branched out with strangers. I’ve gotten more rave reviews and positive feedback than I could ever imagine. I’ve recounted the past, restated the present, and predicted the future thousands of times, and I’m still thrilled as could be – and a little bit amazed – when the information I’ve given is verified. I love this work.

So this blog is about my stories, experiences, tidbits and methods. It’s an adventure, and I’m delighted to share it.