Recently, a colleague and I exchanged notes on the sessions we do, and how some people are wonderful and easy to work with, while others are so difficult and negative that we just want to hang up the phone and be done with it. If you are at all considering getting a reading for yourself, you need to understand 100% that you are just as responsible for the outcome of your session as the person who is reading you or working with your energy. That said, here are some major dos and don’ts to follow before you book a session with anyone in the healing arts.
DON’T be Down, Dark, and in the Dumps.
If you want the best healing session possible, DO NOT arrive in emergency-drama-panic-fear mode. For starters, it is energetically irresponsible and just plain rude for you to come to your session dark, down, and negative, expecting the reader/healer to zap through your cloud of turmoil, turn you around, make you happy, give you all the answers, and make it all better in 60 minutes or less.
Yes, you may be in pain, but a reading is not a place to dump your shit like some kind of Exxon oil spill. It will only give you temporary relief, anyway. Breathe, calm yourself down, and get into a more decent space before a session. Ask your questions from an empowered place, knowing that YOU are in charge of your destiny and your life. As you do this, your energy will naturally become more centered and balanced. And this is what you need in order to direct your life from a higher vibration of love and light.
DO say a prayer and set an intention for yourself before your session.
It can be as formal or informal as you’d like it to be, but it will be extremely helpful for you to acknowledge Higher Power and pray/request that you receive the highest level of positive information and healing during your session. Ask that you and the reader/healer are both guided in the light, and that you hear what you need to hear so that you can be in alignment with God and the universe in order to be happy, to thrive, to be of service, and to grow your soul.
DON’T expect a reader or energy healer to magically FIX you.
You need to do the work in your life. A reading or healing session will help shift your energy and give you insight into what you need to do next in order to repair your life or get back on track, but it will not do the work for you. Don’t blame your practitioner if things aren’t going the way you want them to. Do some soul-searching and accept responsibility for your own energy, your own karma, and your own choices.
DO BE OPEN to what comes through.
One of the hardest things for readers is telling people what the NEED TO KNOW, which is not always what they WANT TO HEAR. In fact, this is personally one of my biggest struggles because I hate to piss people off. Once, a woman asked me why a certain man didn’t like her. It turns out he would rather be with someone homely and COOL that someone really pretty and BITCHY. Sadly, she fell into the latter category. She didn’t want to hear that, but it was the truth. She had asked me to tell the truth, and I did. She also got angry with me when I said her wedding date might not be until a few years down the line. She specifically asked me to look into the future and get that information for her, and when I did, she didn’t like it. Talk about dark, angry, and negative! In any event, that brings me to the next DO, which is…
DO ask how you can change (or best direct) your future.
If you don’t like an answer you get, don’t be angry. Ask how you can change it. God gave you free will, which means that even if a reader sees that things might turn out a certain way, you can totally change it. Nobody can predict the future with 100% accuracy, because we all have free will.
DON’T expect to IMMEDIATELY understand everything the person says during a session.
Be open, let the information sink in, and mull things over. I recently had two separate sessions with two different readers. The first one mentioned something to me which was interesting but didn’t really make sense to me at the time. When the second one uttered the EXACT SAME WORDS in the same sentence, I gasped. This was something I needed to really pay attention to!!! And I listened. It is still making more sense to me as the weeks pass by, and I’m mostly just marveling at the incredibly magical way in which things can unfold when you’re open, willing to receive guidance, tuned in and paying attention.
DO ask how you can heal yourself, connect with God, and receive your own guidance.
Since the dawn of mankind, people have become used to giving their power away. That cycle is now ending. We are entering into an era now where we are gaining more truth and knowledge about God, creation, energy, and how the universe works. This means every single person alive has permission to talk to God, to be psychic, to be authentically powerful, to heal themselves and heal others. We are on equal playing ground here. Information is EVERYWHERE, literally at our very fingertips. So why not ask your practitioner how you can get more aligned with your own inner guidance? A true healer will be THRILLED that you’re asking empowering questions like this, as this is the direction we are all being called to follow.
It’s really important that you stay focused, calm, centered and grounded during a session. Know that only YOU can truly heal your life. A reader or energy healer can offer you sound guidance and help to re-align your energies so that you remember how powerful you really are. But you have to do the work. You have to stop making the same mistakes. You have to be responsible for how you think, how you run your own energy, what you eat, what you do, and what you say. Remember that you chose to experience everything you are now experiencing, and there is a reason for all of it.