Spiritual Superiority!?!


The idea of what I’ll call Spiritual Superiority came onto my radar recently.

Basically, it’s the notion that spiritual teachers are better than other people. It’s like the spiritual equivalent of capitalism. There are some spiritual teachers who have a vested interest in having their followers think they have it all figured out.

And with the advent of social media, they are able to craft an image of themselves that shows the world that they are happy, successful, and “on point” with what they are doing. To my psychic eye, however, some of what I see on social media conveys an almost narcissistic need to be idolized. It reminds me of what they say about psychiatrists being the people who need the most work of all!!

If you’re on the spiritual path, I’ll say this first and foremost: beware of any spiritual teacher who tells you that you have to work with them, or or that they (and only they) know they way. Beware of any techniques that seem manipulative or coercive. And beware of anything that resembles even borderline cult-y.

The best spiritual teachers will encourage you to follow your own path and to see the light within you. You are a spark of the divine, and you possess everything you need in order to heal and grow.

The ideal teacher is really just a catalyst, plain and simple.

Because a lot of my work is about intuition, I would say you can also follow your own intuition to discover if a teacher or spiritual leader is the right person for you. I have found some to be straight up shady. I have also found some to be so incredibly wonderful, honest, and truthful that just thinking about them now makes my energy feel better (of late, I have been reading about Kabbalah by Rabbi David Cooper, who my Angel Healer friend Marjetka Novak told me about). I also love Colette Baron-Reid, Sanaya Roman and Orin, Youtube’s Gigi Young who has beautiful energy, and my dear friend, author and clairvoyant Debra Lynne Katz, who has helped me heal and grow so much.

We are all here for a reason, and because some craft a strong public presence does not mean they have all the answers! They are just the same as you, trying to get through life here on earth!

The other day, someone asked me how knowing about past lives can help you heal – like what’s the point? And I thought it would make an interesting topic to chat about.

Some people do not believe in reincarnation, and we are certainly all entitled to our beliefs. There’s room for everything. I, for one, find great comfort in knowing there is a cycle to things and that the spirit lives on outside of the physical body, so I love believing in reincarnation.

From my experience personally and with clients, knowledge about past lives can help you understand where you’ve been, with whom, and why. That knowledge can help you have a deeper sense of WHO YOU ARE and what your mission is. It can help you understand why you have certain problems, why you love certain people and places, what karma/dharma you need to work on in this lifetime, and how you can do it.

Through my own personal past life healing, I have discovered much more about who I really am and the relationships I have with others. I’d love to prattle on about it all, but I don’t want to bore you. However I do just have to mention that I was thrilled to discover recently that my best friend from high school and I were twins in a past life! We both love to dress up and we still wear the same size all these years later and little thumbnail photos of me totally look like her. It all makes sense to both of us now.

If you are interested in learning more about your true spirit, the nature of your soul, and why you are here, past life work is a wonderful and FUN thing to do. And how to do it? You can start with Brain Weiss’s book, Many Lives, Many Masters. He also has another book called Only Love is Real that I like a lot, too. There are some great past life regression meditations you can do, and you can also work with a hypnotherapist to discover more. That’s how I initially discovered that my mother in this lifetime had been my brother in a past life – no wonder I always used to wish I had been a kid when she was a kid so we could have played together all day long.

On a deeper level, the first truly healing clairvoyant reading I ever had (purchased for me by my above-mentioned best friend from high school), revealed that I had been a sage in India many many years ago. Hearing that truth was like breathing deeply for the first time ever. The energy in the room literally shifted when that came through and we were all FLOORED by how powerful it was (two people were doing the reading). And that reading literally changed my life.

You are so much more than your personality in this lifetime. And knowing who you are on that deep soul level can only help you heal and grow even more.

My 4 year-old son Ivan said something profound recently:

“When people get old, they go back into heaven, and they start to get back into being a baby again. They go around and around and around.”

From the mouths of babes! LOL!

Have you ever found yourself in a negative pattern or cycle? Usually the realization that a pattern or cycle is taking effect begins with: “Why does this KEEP HAPPENING TO ME!?”

And usually these negative patterns and cycles are pretty huge and uncomfortable. From being in terrible jobs, to allowing yourself to be treated in ways you don’t want to be treated, to inadvertently attracting the wrong type of romantic partner, negative patterns and cycles are pretty painful.

The good news is, cycles and patterns can absolutely be broken (if you want them to). The secret is to become aware that a pattern exists, and to understand how and why you are creating that pattern.

From there, you can make peace with yourself and with your pattern by intense self-reflection in whatever form you’re drawn to – through spiritual development, therapy, energy healing, meditation, or any other form of deep inner work. As you know, a myriad of all kinds of therapies are available, and only you know best what will help you at certain times in your life.

Once you break a cycle or pattern, for the most part it will be DONE, however I’ve noticed that sometimes residual energy will show up, kind of like a blip on a radar, before it becomes obsolete. And if you find that does happen, you can also do more work and reflection to clear that up, too.

I’ve noticed in my work with energy healing that you don’t just focus on a problem or issue one time and heal it and make it go away forever; it’s a process, just like you don’t go to the gym one time and lift weights and expect lasting results. Inner work takes focus, determination, and dedication – but the results are beyond worth it.

Do animals and humans ever cross over when it comes to reincarnation?

To be honest with you, I don’t have empirical scientific evidence of that. Who does?!?

But I can tell you, our dear cat Aloysius seems incredibly human (he is reclining across my lap as I am trying to type this), while sweet Coco is *extremely* feline (she will have nothing to do with computers).

I’ve heard tell that some spiritual folk believe there’s no crossover between animals and humans when it comes to reincarnation. HOWEVER, whoever thinks that is overlooking one important truth: humans ARE animals! And therefore…would it not seem possible that some humans reincarnate as animals and vice-versa?

While there’s no proof of any of this, there’s one thing we can all agree on; animals are amazing. They teach us lessons and help us to give and receive pure, unadulterated love. I’ve had the honor of connecting with many animals whose spirits are definitely a part of a tribe of mega powerful healers. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about! There are regular animals, and then there are *magical* ones. Just like people!

I just wanted to muse about the whole notion of animals and reincarnation here in this chat. I’d love to hear your thoughts too – these conversations are the best when they’re shared with like-minded friends! You can post a comment on the YouTube page, or Facebook or Twitter (buttons below) or just email me!

And if you want a past life reading, please hit me up! I LOVE doing them, and its amazing to find out about your soul’s path throughout the ages – who, what, where and when you’ve been, and with whom, and how to heal and resolve your karma so you can evolve more quickly and easily. Yay reincarnation and spiritual growth! Then you won’t have to come back here another hundred times or as long as the earth can endure our human endeavors.

People ask me about soul mates all the time. Yes, soul mates really do exist – but they’re not always the “Happily Ever After” people we tend to generalize them as. Soul mates can be family members, friends, teachers, and bosses, as well as romantic partners. Soul mates can be people who create difficult circumstances for us so that we have no choice but to learn and grow.

Soul mates always have an affect on us, and there is always a deeper spiritual meaning to our relationship with them than what we may assume there is.

As far as romantic partners go, there isn’t just ONE soul mate out there for you. There are over 6 billion people living on the planet right now. That means the odds are higher than ever that you’ll meet someone you have a deep soulful connection with. The best thing you can do for yourself as far as magnetizing your soul mate is concerned is to shift your mindset from scarcity mode (thinking the options are limited) and move into abundance mode. We can travel. There are billions of people here right now. The sky is the limit as to who you can meet and how you can meet them! If you are searching for love and would like some extra guidance, check out my MP3 workshop, Magnetize Your Soul Mate. It will help you get in the right space to do just that – both mentally, physically, and, most importantly, energetically! Click here for the instant download. 


New Fun Things!


I just added a couple of new free meditations to the store page of this website. One is on increasing your self-worth and self-love, and the other is on attracting more abundance into your life. Check them out and let me know what you think!

At the bottom of the page, you’ll see I also added a new meditation that I’m calling the Energetic Facelift/Beautification Healing Meditation. When you work with color, vibration, and energy, you can literally shift the cells and molecules that make up your body (which is made entirely of energy anyway!) and create positive changes. Since everyone wants to look better in some way or another, I thought this would be a fun meditation to use on a regular basis. It’s only $15 – less than anything you’d find at Sephora and a lot less than a real face lift!

While you’re at the store, check out the courses and things I’ve created covering topics like spirit guides, soul mates, psychic protection, releasing blocks, and healing your body with energy work. They’ve all been designed to help you with some of the biggest issues you’re facing so that you can make lasting, positive changes in your life. In the mean time, I’ll be working on a past life regression meditation, a chakra healing program, and anything else you request!

Recently, a colleague and I exchanged notes on the sessions we do, and how some people are wonderful and easy to work with, while others are so difficult and negative that we just want to hang up the phone and be done with it. If you are at all considering getting a reading for yourself, you need to understand 100% that you are just as responsible for the outcome of your session as the person who is reading you or working with your energy. That said, here are some major dos and don’ts to follow before you book a session with anyone in the healing arts.

DON’T be Down, Dark, and in the Dumps.

If you want the best healing session possible, DO NOT arrive in emergency-drama-panic-fear mode. For starters, it is energetically irresponsible and just plain rude for you to come to your session dark, down, and negative, expecting the reader/healer to zap through your cloud of turmoil, turn you around, make you happy, give you all the answers, and make it all better in 60 minutes or less.

Yes, you may be in pain, but a reading is not a place to dump your shit like some kind of Exxon oil spill. It will only give you temporary relief, anyway. Breathe, calm yourself down, and get into a more decent space before a session. Ask your questions from an empowered place, knowing that YOU are in charge of your destiny and your life. As you do this, your energy will naturally become more centered and balanced. And this is what you need in order to direct your life from a higher vibration of love and light.

DO say a prayer and set an intention for yourself before your session.

It can be as formal or informal as you’d like it to be, but it will be extremely helpful for you to acknowledge Higher Power and pray/request that you receive the highest level of positive information and healing during your session. Ask that you and the reader/healer are both guided in the light, and that you hear what you need to hear so that you can be in alignment with God and the universe in order to be happy, to thrive, to be of service, and to grow your soul.

DON’T expect a reader or energy healer to magically FIX you.

You need to do the work in your life. A reading or healing session will help shift your energy and give you insight into what you need to do next in order to repair your life or get back on track, but it will not do the work for you. Don’t blame your practitioner if things aren’t going the way you want them to. Do some soul-searching and accept responsibility for your own energy, your own karma, and your own choices.

DO BE OPEN to what comes through.

One of the hardest things for readers is telling people what the NEED TO KNOW, which is not always what they WANT TO HEAR. In fact, this is personally one of my biggest struggles because I hate to piss people off. Once, a woman asked me why a certain man didn’t like her. It turns out he would rather be with someone homely and COOL that someone really pretty and BITCHY. Sadly, she fell into the latter category. She didn’t want to hear that, but it was the truth. She had asked me to tell the truth, and I did. She also got angry with me when I said her wedding date might not be until a few years down the line. She specifically asked me to look into the future and get that information for her, and when I did, she didn’t like it. Talk about dark, angry, and negative! In any event, that brings me to the next DO, which is…

DO ask how you can change (or best direct) your future. 

If you don’t like an answer you get, don’t be angry. Ask how you can change it. God gave you free will, which means that even if a reader sees that things might turn out a certain way, you can totally change it. Nobody can predict the future with 100% accuracy, because we all have free will.

DON’T expect to IMMEDIATELY understand everything the person says during a session.

Be open, let the information sink in, and mull things over. I recently had two separate sessions with two different readers. The first one mentioned something to me which was interesting but didn’t really make sense to me at the time. When the second one uttered the EXACT SAME WORDS in the same sentence, I gasped. This was something I needed to really pay attention to!!! And I listened. It is still making more sense to me as the weeks pass by, and I’m mostly just marveling at the incredibly magical way in which things can unfold when you’re open, willing to receive guidance, tuned in and paying attention.

DO ask how you can heal yourself, connect with God, and receive your own guidance.

Since the dawn of mankind, people have become used to giving their power away. That cycle is now ending. We are entering into an era now where we are gaining more truth and knowledge about God, creation, energy, and how the universe works. This means every single person alive has permission to talk to God, to be psychic, to be authentically powerful, to heal themselves and heal others. We are on equal playing ground here. Information is EVERYWHERE, literally at our very fingertips. So why not ask your practitioner how you can get more aligned with your own inner guidance? A true healer will be THRILLED that you’re asking empowering questions like this, as this is the direction we are all being called to follow.

It’s really important that you stay focused, calm, centered and grounded during a session. Know that only YOU can truly heal your life. A reader or energy healer can offer you sound guidance and help to re-align your energies so that you remember how powerful you really are. But you have to do the work. You have to stop making the same mistakes. You have to be responsible for how you think, how you run your own energy, what you eat, what you do, and what you say. Remember that you chose to experience everything you are now experiencing, and there is a reason for all of it.

Being grounded means you’re centered, fully present and aware of what’s going on around you, and you’re calm, alert, and “plugged in.” When you’re grounded, your spirit and your consciousness is connected to your body. You’re right here, right now. When you’re not grounded, you’re floaty, you’re here, but not really here, and you tune out the world around you. You’re caught up in your thoughts and you’re sort of out to lunch. For some people, being ungrounded is more comfortable than being fully present, because it’s easier to tune out the sad reality around them than it is to be fully aware of it. It becomes a basic coping mechanism, a way to deal with things they don’t like. But unfortunately, when you’re always ungrounded, the things you’re tuning out aren’t going to change much, because you’re not present enough to change them.

The more grounded you are, the more power you have to get things done and to direct your life from a place of strength and ease. People who are grounded are great at manifesting on the physical plane, because you have to be fully engaged in the physical world in order to manifest at that physical level. When you’re ungrounded, you’re pretty much walking around like an empty shell, just letting your body go through the motions.

So how do you know if you’re grounded or not? Here are 9 warning signs to watch out for:

1.You’ve realize you’ve been driving, jogging, cycling or rowing a boat for 10 minutes and you don’t remember what you’ve passed by
2. You’re listening to someone talk but don’t HEAR what they are saying
3. You realize you’ve been thinking about a person or problem or a problem with a person for so long you can’t remember how you got onto that tangent
4. You can’t concentrate on easy things like basic math (with a calculator)
5. You feel floaty and spacey
6. You aren’t focusing on what you’re doing
7. You can’t make a decision to save your life
8. You’d rather escape into a book or movie than live your life
9. You don’t realize what your body feels like to you – you feel disconnected from reality

Being grounded means being fully present in the now. Your consciousness is aware of everything that’s going on in the physical world, very connected to your body, and very connected to the earth – strong and secure, like an ancient oak tree, with roots going deep into the earth. Trees like this don’t get blown over very easily. However, when you’re ungrounded, you’re like a sapling with roots barely skimming the surface of the soil. You can get blown away in the blink of an eye.

If you notice you do all of the 9 things above all of the time, or some of them some of the time, just pay attention to when these things happen – and when they do, make a conscious effort to “snap” yourself back to the present moment. Direct your attention to the things right in front of you. Stomp your feet and wiggle your toes. Clap your hands and snap your fingers. Take a deep breath, and notice what the air you breathe in smells like. Do something physical – move your body, jump up and down, stretch, take a walk, work outside or in the kitchen. With practice, you’ll find yourself more and more in tune with the present moment, and you’ll gradually become more and more grounded in your everyday life.

Do you think you’re more ungrounded or grounded, generally speaking? What feels more comfortable to you?

Very few people can honestly say they don’t judge or criticize others. I can’t. Can you? In fact, many of us see things in black and white (whether we are aware of it or not), righteously and firmly planted in the belief that we are right, and others are wrong…or assuming that we know what other people’s motives are, but really, in essence, having no idea. When we judge people or events, we create constricting energy that boxes up our own vibration, and even holds back the progress of our collective consciousness. Think about it – do you ever really feel good when you’re judging or criticizing someone else? No. It puts you in an ugly, closed-off space. And in order to thrive and grow, you need to feel good, and to be in a strong, positive vibration. When you judge someone for being an ass, you’re the ass, too – because you’re all caught up in criticizing and judging them. And that’s not cool.

It’s not always easy to switch over to non-critical thoughts, though – so here are 5 ways to suspend judgement and get into the zone of all-for-one goodness:

1. Just Knock it Off.
Easier said than done, right? But honestly, you’ve gotta stop at some point. Try this: the minute you start thinking negatively about someone, stop yourself mid-thought and ask yourself why you’re going there, and correct the action while it’s happening. Either pull yourself into the present moment and train your brain to think about and focus on something else, or, if you have the time, take a moment to write down what you think about that person;  if you’re angry, get it out! And then crumple up the piece of paper, throw it out, and be done with it (until the next critical thought comes up – and when it does, and it will, do this again, and again, and again, until you finally end the cycle.).
2. Walk in Their Shoes
Don’t think for a moment that you can know what ANYONE’S life is like until you walk in their shoes. You have no idea – you really, really have no idea – what their experience is. Once you can accept that, you can disconnect, unplug, and pull your vibration away from trying to figure out what you think is so wrong about that person’s beliefs or actions. Maybe, at some point or another, you’ll experience something that the person you’re judging is experiencing. Who’s to say you’ll react any better than they did, or do? You can’t know their journey until you take it yourself.
3. Don’t Assume ANYTHING.
Remember that to assume makes an ASS out of YOU and ME. Don’t assume anything. You could be seriously wrong.
4. Create a loving heart. 
Work on opening yourself up to being a lover, not a hater. Start by recognizing the people and animals you love easily, and allow your love to grow. Smile more. Imagine the asshole honking at you in traffic is your son or grandson, and send him love. Recognize that the telemarketer is just doing her job, and send her love. Each morning, commit to having a loving heart, and to create a loving world. It won’t work overnight, but in time, you will cultivate a loving vibration that is much higher spiritually than criticism or judgement.
5. Know that it’s not about you.
A huge reason why we’re so critical and judgmental is that we act from our egos, taking life ever-so-personally. But no matter who you feel critical of – parents, children, friends, co-workers, bad doctors or dentists – pull yourself out of the interaction and truly realize that it’s not about you. People will act the way they’re going to act, regardless of whether you’re there or not. And you can’t change that.
It takes a ton of effort to turn off criticism and judgement in a world that embraces it so wholeheartedly (just turn on the TV or pick up a tabloid), but once you begin to practice suspending these thoughts and vibrations, you’ll realize that you actually feel better, and that it’s a lighter way of being. I’m trying to adjust my thoughts and beliefs, and I feel happier when I’m more understanding about people and less huffy-puffy, in a tizzy, or mad at them for whatever they’re doing that I perceive is uncool. When you’re truly un-judgemental, your energy flows, and your vibration lightens up. Change starts with one person, and you, too, can be an influencer in this new thought movement, making a difference that contributes to elevating the vibration of our entire planetary consciousness. I’d say that’s worth trying for.
Is there a person or situation that gets you all judge-y and critical? I want to hear your experiences, and see if these techniques will help – so please leave a comment below.