Boy do I get asked this question a lot! So here’s a list ranging from the mundane and obvious, to the psychic/spiritual and mystical:


1. He or she is possessive with the cell phone.

If he/she gets overly bent out of shape when you pick up his/her phone, look out: they’re probably hiding something. One client whose love interest was a player had a habit of not identifying people by their names, just their phone numbers. Sneaky, huh? So instead of “Maureen” he had her phone number. Regardless of this safety measure, she found out what he was up to.

2. He or she deletes data on the cell phone.

He/she deletes text messages, either yours, or those of other people. How do you know she/he’s deleting other people’s texts? Just look for gaps. If he or she hasn’t received messages in a while, that means they’re deleting them. That’s suspicious behavior.

3. He/she password-protects everything, and won’t give you the password.

If they have nothing to hide, why are they so protective?

4. His or her behavior changes.

Does he or she suddenly have new interests? Are they dressing differently, maybe going to new places, eating different foods? These may suggest the influence of another man or woman.

5. She or he is unresponsive to you, or makes lots of excuses as to why you can’t get together.

This is obvious, but it happens a lot. If he/she says they can’t meet up because they’re working late, or they can’t meet you out, or they’re doing this or that or the other, they could be cheating/seeing someone else. Ditto for if you live with him or her and he/she starts staying out late (always with an excuse, though).


1. The cards tell you.

Using Tarot cards, if someone is cheating, you’ll typically get a lot of 3 of Swords, 10 of Swords, 2 of Swords, 8 of Swords (just swords in general!!), the Tower card, the Devil card, 2 of Coins. The cards don’t lie. You can ask again and again, and you’ll see similar cards coming up. If you aren’t familiar with the Tarot, no worries: there are tons of books that will help you through doing a reading for yourself.

2. Your 3rd chakra starts nagging you.

A lot of clients will literally feel it in their gut when their significant other is cheating on them. The gut doesn’t lie. It’s telling you something. Listen.

3. Your spirit guides warn you.

Speaking of listening, one client years ago had a nagging feeling that something was wrong with her relationship. She prayed to her guides for help. One day, she left work early with a headache. She lay down in bed and starting reading a book she’d picked up at the library. The story started with a husband cheating on his wife. She put the book down and closed her eyes. Then she heard the message “Check his email.” She did, and found out he’d been cheating. It was horrible, but she was grateful for the guidance. She’d needed to know. If you need help from your guides in this department, just ask them. They’re on your side, and they will come through for you.

4. You get prophetic dreams.

Some people will literally be told in their dreams to watch out for something. It’s not 100% accurate, but if you’re a dreamer, and you like dream interpretation, set the intention before going to bed to have an experience that will guide you to find out whether or not your partner is cheating. Then write down your dreams the minute you awaken. You may be surprised by what you find.

5. You see it clairvoyantly. 

You can do a clairvoyant reading to find out what someone’s up to. Listen to this meditation, which will get you into psychic mode. Then bring your awareness to your 3rd eye, or 6th chakra. With your eyes closed, imagine you’re looking out of your forehead onto a screen out in front of you. Put a big bubble on the screen, and say your partner’s name three times. As you say his or her name, allow the bubble to fill up with his or her energy. Notice what color it is. Then, ask that bubble if he or she is faithful to you, and see what it does. You might even put up a bubble next to it that represents you, and ask that to fill up with your energy, then see how the two bubbles interact. You might not get something that’s glaringly obvious, but pay attention to what you do see, because it will mean something. If he or she is tiptoeing around, looking sneaky, that’s a clue she/he is cheating. If he or she turns into a mischievous monkey, that’s a clue that he/she is doing something naughty, too. If he or she is standing there noble and strong, that’s a clue he/she is on the up and up.

Sometimes it’s hard to tell if it’s your fear of being hurt, or your own intuition giving you warning signs that your significant other is cheating. Whatever the case, try and quiet your mind and tune in to see what’s going on. Ask for all the help you can get, and remember, you’re not alone. And if you do find out your partner cheating, just try and take it in stride. Get your friends and family to help you, and don’t let this experience ruin your life. Things could change for the better with him or her, or the universe might be telling you to leave that person so that you can meet someone who is truly wonderful for you. Remember, any painful experience is an opportunity for your soul to grow and evolve.