Do Spirit Guides Really Exist? Here’s What I Think (and Why).


When I first started to develop my psychic abilities, I heard psychic development experts talk about spirit guides, and to be perfectly honest with you, I had a hard time believing they were real.

First off, I thought – what ARE they? Are they ghosts? Spirits? Angels? Beings from another dimension?

Then, I thought – if they DO exist, why would they want to help ME?

I remembered how much time and energy I spent as a kid praying, begging God, Jesus Christ, and the whole f*$%ing pantheon of angels to heal my mom, to keep her alive, and to alleviate the horrible pain she was in when she was suffering from cancer. I didn’t think my pleas were heard, though, because not only did she endure excruciating pain for 5 long years, but she died when I was 15, leaving me to face the rest of my life alone, without her. I turned my back on God and anything else “other-worldly” for 15 years after that. So, to say I’m skeptical is a bit of an understatement.

Yet, today, through all the work I’ve done to develop my intuition and access a greater level of understanding of the whole spiritual side of things, I have to say I honestly do believe that spirit guides exist. I still tend to test them every time I ask for guidance for myself, and every heartfelt plea I put forth starts with “If you really do exist…” and then “please help me with…(xyz).” Yet when I ask my guides for help, and then quiet my mind and look for signs and listen for messages, I do get answers. I have guides who help me cook, who help me find great deals when I shop (and I love to shop), who help me get parking spaces, and who help with all sorts of other things that aren’t so mundane – like understanding why my mom suffered so much, where she is now, and what our karma together was all about.

Guides show up ALL THE TIME when I’m doing energy healings and readings for people. When my brain is in that alpha mode, and I’m looking to help others, spirit guides come through without fail. I clairvoyantly see them, I hear messages they have to deliver, and I know I’m not making it up because the advice they give is invariably greater, wiser, and even sassier than I’d ever be.

Here are the most common questions I’ve heard, along with answers I’ve gleaned, about spirit guides:

What are spirit guides?

Spirit guides are energy beings who are here to help you get through life on earth. They can appear to you as a person, an animal, or a sound, touch, or color. Your spirit guides can be ascended masters, deities, departed loved ones, or spiritual avatars like Christ, the Buddha, Quan Yin, or any of the angels or archangels.

How do I know they exist?

By trial and error, really. Just start asking for help, for guidance, for answers. And then just pay close attention to any messages you receive. You might PRETEND that when you ask, someone is listening. Once you start to really feel like you’re being heard, you can transition into a working relationship with your guides. It’s kind of like learning to ride a bike. Once you know how to do it, you know.

Why would they want to help me?

The universe consists of many, many layers and dimensions. In helping you get through your life, your guides are able to ascend as well.

How can you hear their guidance?

You can sense that your guides are with you by paying attention to signs, shifts in vibrations, and higher-level thoughts that float through your brain. Many people will hear songs on the radio, see billboards or ads that make sense, or notice hummingbirds, butterflies, or other creatures that make them  feel uplifted and provide reassurance. You can tell you’re getting high-quality guidance when you ask yourself questions, then hear answers in your head that are wiser than your own voice. It takes getting used to, but with time, you’ll figure out when guidance is coming through.

What can spirit guides help me with?

You have your own set of guides who help with your particular life path and any and all problems that you have. These guides are like guardian angels, who are with you from the day you’re born til the day you die. You can also ask to connect with any other specific type of guide to help with anything you need assistance with. If you’re sick, ask for healing guides to help you. If you’re struggling with a creative project, ask for an artist guide to come through. If you’re working on spiritual growth, ask for a specific deity to guide you.

How can I strengthen my connection to my guides?

As with intuitive development, you can strengthen your connection to your guides through meditation, hypnosis, and guided imagery. When you meditate, you slow your brain waves down from the active “beta” state to the calmer “alpha” mode. That’s when guidance comes through. You may think you’re imagining things, but that’s how it all begins. Soon you’ll realize that you really are receiving messages that are useful and make practical sense to you.

If you’re interested in learning more about guides, check out this workshop I recorded that’s chock full of my own stories and experiences with learning how to connect with my guides, as well as tips for how you can connect with yours, including two guided meditations. It’s $55 and for the 90 minute class, which you can download instantly. I also recorded a fairy-tale like magical forest meditation for connecting with your guide – click here to purchase and download (it’s toward the bottom of the page).

What do you think about spirit guides? If you’ve had experiences with your guides, what are the ones that you’ve remembered the most? How do you connect? Please share your stories, tips and comments below! 

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  • Willow   

    This information is so helpful, thank you so much. I have believed in my guides completely for a few years now, but I beat myself up for not "hearing" them… your advice is so sweetly practical and it just helps me believe that I can stay connected.

  • Krishanti   

    It's hard for me to actively "hear' my guides, too. I think it's because of that whole notion of crazy people hearing voices. 🙂 Thanks for your kind words, Willow!

  • Debra Lynne Katz   

    You sum this up so beautifully! Gotten such a great response from your last two workshop! Glad you will be doing more. No one should miss them!

  • Krishanti   

    Thank you so much, Debra! I'm glad we're doing more, too. Your International School of Clairvoyance is the BEST! xoxo

  • Kristine at Badge of Intent   

    Thank you for this!! I know my guides are around but sometimes I forget to ask for their help – this is a great reminder that asking for their help benefits them as well as me!!

  • Carolyn Elmsford   

    I love how you first talk about your doubt. It helps me, and I think all of us, to know that we all doubt – and even you, such a connected, incredible psychic. Thanks for the recommendation of books. I know that guides exist – and I've had amazing things, people, (you, for one!) show up in my life at the PERFECT time. I really want to improve being able to HEAR them. (well, ok, what I really want is for written instructions from god to drop in my lap..) You're an incredible psychic. You've helped me SO much.

  • Krishanti   

    Kristine – thank you! I know, it is great to remember that they're benefitting by helping us, too!
    Carolyn – I'm so grateful to have met you, and you've helped me so much, too! I'd love some written instructions to drop in my lap, wouldn't that be awesome?! I guess in the mean time we have to just ASK for help, and then wait for the answers to come to us.

  • Stephanie Surtida   

    Hi Krishanti!

    I have a question.. if you've had the same guides for some time and haven't meditated in a while, do they remain with you or will they always change? I always think I'm communicating with the same guides and they each have their own names, but, is it really the same ones? And can you keep guides while adding more? Kind of like building a following on Facebook or Twitter? I just don't want to get rid of them (hehe…)

    All your posts is so informative and helpful! Always looking forward to more <3


  • Nica Tahsequah   

    Thanks for your guidance Krishanti! You always help me to be calm when I need it most and you provide great insight to whatever I'm going through.

  • Krishanti   

    Hi Stephanie!!

    Thank you! I think they do remain with you, regardless of whether or not you meditate as often as you'd like. And you definitely can keep the same guides while adding more, I love your analogy of building a following on Facebook or Twitter! If you don't want to get rid of them, they likewise won't want to get rid of you, so I wouldn't worry about losing your favorite guides. They'll be with you no matter what.



  • Mikaela Balazs   

    hi Krishanti, I just have one question : how you do to separate yourself from the bad and unhealthy spirits that come to you suddenly ? All my life I had communications with spirits that just happen, I didn't ask for them to happen. Is overwhelming and hard to deal with it but once I knew that I could die if I will not be strong enough to get out of it. That is the most scaring thing. When my father died i communicate with him and help him to understand and before dying I helped him in a transit to come out of comma. But after that I pray to God for all this to stop because I am afraid. I don't know how to deal with this, especially with the bed ones. I didn't find any helpful answer and I don't want to get brainwashed by all sort o people. I read your blog and seems to me the most reasonable I've had the chance to read. Thank You !

  • Krishanti   

    Hi Mikaela,

    It's really hard when spirits come to you without you asking them to, I have heard of people experiencing contact with energies that are very strong and very bold – some energies will actually slam doors and rattle things around to get your attention. I think your first action, to pray, is one of the best things you can do to stop unwanted spirit attention. You also want to strengthen your aura and vibration so that you have a sort of "no-fly zone" around you. Remember, just by virtue of being in the body, we are stronger than spirits, and we do have every right to tell bad ones to leave us alone. I would just research and read books on psychic protection, there are many good ones out there, and a lot of good protection rituals you can find online. Good luck and remember, you are strong, and have every right to tell unwanted energies to leave you alone, and they will.
    All the Best,

  • Mikaela Balazs   

    Hi Krishanti,

    Thank you very much for your answer. I found some helpful tips there. I can say that I feel a bit stronger now. And that i can restore back what i had, to open the door that i closed once but … still disturbed me, even closed. … How I can strengthen my aura ?

    Thank you so much !

  • Krishanti   

    Hi Mikaela,

    There's a great book by Ted Andrews called "Meet and Work with Spirit Guides." He has really good tips on strengthening your aura, and I highly recommend reading it. I'll also work on a blog post on this, too!

  • Anonymous   

    Hi Krishanti,

    Your story is very similiar to mine. When I was a teenager my my single mom struggled and she became ill with cervical cancer and suffered very badly for over a year before she passed away. I prayed for her recovery and felt my prayers were never heard. I kind of turned my back on God for a while but my faith never left me it was just dormant for a while. I as a single mom also struggle but have faith that everything will be fine. Lately I feel a calling to know more. I have been researching for a while on how to connect with my guides and angels. I have just started my journey and your page is very helpful! Thank you! 🙂


  • Krishanti   

    Hi Christine. It's good to hear from people who've been through the same struggle, as painful as it is, to know that someone else knows what it's like. I'm so sorry about your mom. It's just so unfair. And then when we have our own kids, it brings up a whole slew of issues we never thought about before.
    A couple of great books on connecting are "Ask Your Guides" by Sonia Choquette, and "Meet and Work with Spirit Guides" by Ted Andrews. They really helped me. Also, just doing meditations will help – Sonia has some, as does John Edward.
    Good luck on your path, and I'm sending you love and wishing you all the very best!

  • Anonymous   

    Im 20 years old. My dad died from cancer when I was 16, my freshman year of highschool. Since then I have not been the same. Core beliefs I have relied on my entire life were shaken, and I too, have lost my faith like you did. And yet I cling to it. I try to have hope that there is something out there, something more than all of this, right here and now, but I shove it away. Getting to this point in my faith has been a slow process, however. My dad didn't just up and die, taking my faith along with it. No. It's four years later that it's taken its toll.
    Im writing this because our stories seem so similar, and Im really happy I found yours. It gives me hope – maybe one day I can believe again.

    Thank you

    – Ravyn

  • Krishanti   

    Hi Ravyn,

    I'm so sorry for your loss, and I don't think you'll ever be the same. We never are. I completely relate to how you're feeling. It takes so much time to get through it. At first we just deal with it, but then as the years pass it becomes something different – yet the same. It look me about 10 years until I started to feel a little bit better. A really nice therapist helped me a lot (I went through about 3 until I found her, so good ones are not always easy to find). I wish I could say something more hopeful, but when it comes to the loss of a beloved parent, time is the only thing that helps us get to a better place.

    With Love,


  • Mindy   

    I always enjoy reading what you offer. Your honesty and clarity, compassion and knowledge are a breath of fresh air. It is rare to find a healer/teacher who does not have a fair amount of ego mixed in with the service:) I struggled with the concept of spirit guides for many years. My resistance stemmed from personal pain caused by different aspects of boundary invasion growing up. I did not like to trust an authority other than my own. Perhaps as a justification for my lack of trust what I have come to believe is that 1: since we are all one, guides are an aspect of our own higher consciousness 2: working with them increases our relationship with that same consciousness allowing us to "walk in it" more consistently 3: a guide's appearance often relates to a past life connection for me but not always 4: the frequency we are holding in any given situation usually determines the level of frequency of the guide as in, it's not okay to use
    "finding your spirit guide" as a parlor game as I encountered once…lower entities came through and it was very uncomfortable. I also caution clients about mixing alcohol or drugs with their quest unless they are highly skilled and trained in that narrow field of work…most of us are not and what we might attract can be disturbing and downright dangerous. 5: a grounded body nourished in a fairly healthy manner combined with an open and loving heart and a respectful intention will connect us with the best not only of ourselves, but of what the universe has to offer.