Well, all planets have moved direct now, which means things should be shifting and we might all be collectively feeling at least slightly better these days.

In this week’s video, I chat about 3 ways you can get a guy off your mind. After I learned how to do readings and energy healings, I worked at a healing center in Los Angeles, and nearly every single woman who came in for a session had a question about how to stop obsessing over a guy. The problem was so prevalent that I created a program to help with it – Get Him Off Your Mind in 28 Days.

Having a crush on someone is fun, and totally normal. But when you really start to get into someone and then that person doesn’t reciprocate – like when you had what you thought was a great date and then you never hear from him again…or when you sleep with him and then he tells you he’s not ready for a relationship…or when you’re texting like crazy and then he just falls off the face of the earth…things can feel pretty ugly.

Women are beginning to reclaim our power, but old patterns die hard. This video just briefly talks about 3 ways to get him off your mind, but the bigger picture is about how and why we feel we need men to complete us, or why we imagine them to be waaaaay better than they really are.

If you are in this situation or ever have been, I hope this video helps. And if you know someone in this situation, please forward it to them.

Remember, I’m also here to do readings, healings, and spiritual coaching – so don’t hesitate to contact me for a session at ask@krishanti.com.


Why Do People Cheat?

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I was bummed to find out that one of my male friends has been cheating on his wife. The thing is, he had kind of a spiritual awakening, and he realized he couldn’t live a lie. So he confessed, and told his wife everything he’d done. He’d never had a “love affair” with anyone, but he’d fooled around quite a bit. He felt like he needed to come clean and tell her. Now, after therapy, they’re getting divorced. I can understand why many other people wouldn’t fess up to their cheating, for fear of suffering these consequences. But that doesn’t help the thousands of people I’ve met with who are struggling with understanding why their partners have cheated on them.

It’s such a common question that a typical clairvoyant image I’ll see for a serial cheater/player type is that he or she views dating as one would view a buffet at the Bellagio in Vegas: lots and lots of beautiful, delicious things to try – lots of options. So why settle for just one?

People cheat for all kinds of different reasons, but there are a few common themes I’ve seen over and over again:

1. He or she wants to feel like they can still get someone to like them.

This is true for the nerdy person (what one of my clients calls the “nerdy player”) as well as the attractive one. Doesn’t matter what age. He/she cheats because he/she wants to prove to him or herself that they can get a person to be interested in them. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been his wife of 20 years or her boyfriend of 2 months, they need to know they’ve still got it.

2. He/she doesn’t want to be tied down.

Some women and men will cheat because they want to feel young and free. If he/she doesn’t want to be tied down, it doesn’t matter if you’re the best man in the world who treats her like royalty; she will cheat and cheat and cheat just so that she doesn’t feel like you’re the old ball and chain (even if you are). It’s hard to say whether this cheater wants to be found out or not. Some do, and some don’t. Those that don’t want to be found out hide their indiscretions from you because they don’t want you to throw them out on the curb. They like the benefits you provide. So if they can get away with reaping your benefits as well as having some fun on the side, they will. That leads me to…

3. He or She wants to be naughty behind Mommy or Daddy’s back.

Ugh! But it’s true! Some men will put you right in that mommy role, whether you want to be “Mommy” or not. And then he’ll go and be naughty behind your back, just to prove that he can. One way to tell if your guy or girl has Mommy or Daddy issues is that he or she will make up little white lies about things – all the time. Another way is to just step back and be honest with yourself. Does he or she act like a child? Are you forced to be the grown up in the relationship? Has he or she cheated on you again and again? He or she is being passive-aggressive, and placing you in the role of the authority. By sneaking around behind your back, he/she is getting away with something. He/she pulls the wool over your eyes, and gets to do what he wants. There’s a little thrill in that.

4. His or Her Ego is out of control.

He/She feels like it’s their right to enjoy as many men or women as possible. My friend met a man on Match like this. She asked me what I thought of him, and I didn’t like his vibe. She’s gorgeous and intelligent, and he had a ponytail. He also had a lot of grammatical/spelling errors in the correspondence she forwarded to me. Regardless, she went ahead and dated him anyway. He slept with her, and then told her he didn’t see a relationship happening because he was planning to move to another country. Kept that profile up, though. He referred to himself as a “Renaissance Man.” Puh-leez.

5. He or She is a sociopath.

They exist. One client’s girlfriend professed her love for him again and again, and even fantasized about what life would be like if they were married. He later found out she was engaged to someone else. When he “outed” her, she said he was the bad guy, and threatened to blackmail him if he told anyone the truth. Another client’s boyfriend dated both men and women behind her back, but was the picture of innocence, and told her she was f*d up when she tried to end it. He won her back, and started doing the same things all over again. If you discover you’re dating a sociopath, end it immediately, and seek help. These people can ruin you, and there are support groups dedicated to helping you get through the devastating damage this type of relationship can cause you.

6. He or she fell in love with someone else but doesn’t want to end it with you.

I had to include the obvious, because this does happen. One woman who was in love with my client (and cheating on her husband) didn’t want to end it with him because he was supporting her. Others won’t end it because of their kids. Or because they made a promise to you, and they are afraid you’ll fall apart if they end it. Or because they’re afraid the other person might not be as great as you – so they keep seeing him or her, but won’t leave you. Ugh, what a mess!

7. He or she is not getting what they need from you.

This is a tough one, and not something people want to hear, but there’s truth to it. Are you being difficult to be around? Nagging him or her, overly dependent on him or her, not making an effort, or just being a total nightmare? There is no excuse for cheating, but maybe he or she feels so bad around you that they’re going to other people for love and support. Again, there’s NO EXCUSE, but if you feel like you could be a better partner, try having a heart-to heart to see what he or she says. If he makes an effort to change, and you do, too, there could be hope for the relationship, and the trust to be re-built.

Unless a person is really sneaky, you will be able to tell if he or she is cheating. In fact, I dedicated a whole blog post to finding the signs – check it out here. Listen to your intuition, which is ON YOUR SIDE and won’t lead you astray. If you have a nagging feeling, don’t shut it down. Explore it until you get the answers you need.

Can you think of any other reasons to add to this list of why people cheat? If so, please let me know.



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Have you, like so many other women, fallen into the treacherous trap of obsessing over a guy?


Asking yourself the same questions, over and over again, day after day, from morning til night:


Where is he right now?
Why hasn’t he contacted me?
What’s happening in his life?
Is he with someone else?
Is he thinking about me?
What does he think of me?
Will he ever call or text me again?
Spending all your time fixating on reasons why he’s not as into you as you’re into him…
Beating yourself up for what you said, the way you acted, and everything you did to make it all go wrong…
Endlessly speculating on what “she” has that you don’t…
Driving yourself crazy envisioning all the possible reasons why he just dropped off the face of the earth…
Dreading that he could have been “the one” and you blew it…

If so, you’re not alone.

In my work as an Intuitive Consultant, I’ve counseled thousands of clients. And the issue that rises above all the rest – money, career, health, etc – is the epidemic of women who just can’t get certain men off their minds. Women from all walks of life, all ages, all ethnic backgrounds, plain and gorgeous, rich and poor, have asked the same questions, in countless appointments, time and again: “What is he thinking?” “Is he thinking about me?” “Why hasn’t he called or texted in ages?” “What did I do to push him away?” And of course, “Will he ever reach out to me again?”
This course isn’t about the mistakes you may (or may not) have made, why he isn’t interested in you, or what you possibly could have done that delivered you to this point.
It’s about breaking the spell he has over you, moving on with your life, and getting him off your mind ONCE AND FOR ALL!
Get Him Off Your Mind is a comprehensive 28-day digital program that gives you all the tools you need to break the spell, end the cycle, reclaim your life and GET HIM OFF YOUR MIND!

HERE ARE THE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Day-by-day support to help you stay strong and focused on reaching your goal. 
  • Powerful energetic techniques to create life-changing shifts in your thoughts and vibration. 
  • Proven strategies to de-program and re-program your subconscious mind and end the cycle of mindlessly obsessing about him. 
  • Tools to cut the cords of attachment and separate yourself mentally, spiritually, and energetically from him. 
  • Steps to reclaim your personal, separate and unique identity, so you can re-discover your beautiful, powerful, divine feminine energy. 
  • Methods to help you clean the slate, clearing out the energetic “garbage” that’s weighing you down and closing your mind off from moving on with your life. 
  • Strategies to open you up to the possibility of being happy on your own, and even finding a new and greater love. 
  • My professional analysis of hundreds of clients coming to grip with this raging epidemic, revealing the #1 reason why millions of women are going through the exact same thing as you. 
  • 9 guided meditations with invaluable support to lead you through the healing process 
  • A support network in the form of a private Facebook group, exclusively for course subscribers, to share experiences, support one another, and promote healing – moderated by me with a weekly Q&A session.

  • Course Agenda:

    Week 1: Practicalities. Working on writing, examining the issue, and mental re-programming to start shifting your thoughts away from him.
    Week 2: Energy dynamics. Focusing on energetic techniques to heal your vibration and recover from the impact he’s had on your mind and spirit.
    Week 3: Shifting the focus. Steering your attention from him back to you.
    Week 4: Mixing it all up. A final run-through, walking you through additional healing methods, a powerful cord-cutting technique, and helping you get back on track so you can focus on your future.

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    I can’t tell you how many women come to see me with questions about the men who are (or are not, or are, but tenuously so) in their lives. Women from all walks of life, from wholesome to exotic, from plain to drop-dead gorgeous, college students, entrepreneurs, psychologists, models and high-powered executives, all have one very troubling thing in common: they can’t get certain men out of their heads. It’s like there’s some weird pull that takes place, some mysterious energetic force, and the next thing you know, women are booking appointments to find out what he’s thinking, if he’s thinking of them, why he hasn’t texted, when he’ll call again, what his deal is. And each time I check out the dude, he’s just, like, ho-hum. Not complex, not worried about it, and, in the case of the guy who’s not returning texts or phone calls, just not really thinking too much about the woman in general.

    It leads us back to the heart of the matter, which is the fact that it’s just not comfortable to have someone on your mind so much. If you find yourself focusing on someone who’s not as invested in you as you are in him, the healthiest thing to do is to get him out of your head. While that’s easier said than done, here are 3 techniques that have worked well for me, my friends, and many of my clients:

    1. Realize that you’re building him up to be much, much more than he really is:
    One of my favorite clients ever is Mina. She’s a super cute, successful Asian American business woman with a petite frame, an excellent sense of style, a spark in her eyes and a great sense of humor. Mina was hooked on a guy she’d had a few dates with, but who was playing hard to get with her. When we looked into him in a session, I saw him as much less enticing than he seems. He eats TV dinners, surfs the internet too much (hint, hint), works too much, and isn’t that adventurous. I worked with Mina to clear the image she has of him as the perfect partner she can’t have because he’s not committing to her, and to see the truth of who he really is. You can do this, too. Just think of all of his flaws, and recruit your friends to help. Years ago, I had a crush on a guy who drove the most absurd car ever. That would be my go-to image to get him off my mind. It worked.

    2. Whenever he pops up in your head, replace his image with something else:
    Very recently, I met with a very lovely woman who was trying to get over a really handsome man who had essentially dumped her and then immediately started dating someone else. She was so hurt, and what hurt her even more was the fact that she just couldn’t get him off her mind. This technique takes a ton of effort, but it worked for her, and I know it can be done. Realize that focusing on him too much is the equivalent of watching bad TV. It’s not good for you, but sometimes it can be addictive; you don’t like it, but you go to it out of habit. So make a concerted effort to switch the channel in your head to something else. Think about someone you’d like more (movie stars work well here). You can also just force yourself to focus only on what you’re doing; that’s called mindfulness and it takes practice, so why not use this time to start? You can also imagine there’s a door in your head, then shove him out of that door and shut it. Your head is your space, and he doesn’t belong there.

    3. Utilize this standard clairvoyant healing method to release his energy from yours:
    Sit in a quiet place, close your eyes, and bring your attention to your third eye. Now visualize a screen out in front of you, and on that screen, create a clear rose, and ask it to fill with the color of your own true vibration. Give that rose a nice, strong stem that burrows deeply into the earth. Next, ask the rose to show you a color or colors that represent where his energy is running through your vibration. Ask those colors that represent his energy to release down the stem of the rose into the earth, and watch as they drain out of the rose. Now fill the rose up with even more of the color of your true vibration. Then imagine you’re taking that rose out of the screen and hold it over your head. See it explode into a million pieces and shower your body and aura with your own true energy.
    For more techniques like this, check out Debra Katz’s work.

    On a subtle energetic level, other people sense when we’re thinking about them. The more you obsess about him, the more uncomfortable he will be, and this will make him want to avoid you like the plague! If you really want a man to contact you, the best thing to do is disconnect. Just leave him alone, be done, move on! This worked for one of my clients who was sort of involved with a professional athlete. She noticed that he’d text or message her even more when she very strongly and clearly stopped thinking about him. I’m not saying this will make him want to be with you forever and ever, but I have seen cases where it really is beneficial. So get a manicure, go shopping, sign up for a dance class and take a weekend trip. Do whatever it takes to re-direct your thoughts and energy to get him out of your head!