A long time ago, one of my bosses gently told me I was a little too obvious with my emotions at work. It was a corporate job, and we were supposed to act super professional. But I had just gotten out of college at the time, and it was hard for me to act happy and enthused when tasked with working on ten thousand-field spreadsheets for hours on end, chained to my desk like a robot instead of a living, breathing human being. Some days, I felt like my life was slipping out of my hands. Eventually, I realized that the corporate route wasn’t the best path for me, and found a way out.
It’s next to impossible to work in an office when you’re a sensitive person. Even more so when that job you rely on for your livelihood is something you’d really rather not be doing. If you’re in a situation like this, here are 5 ways to cope:
1. Practice shielding yourself.
Sensitive people need to work harder at energetic protection than others. If you work on building up a protective shield around your aura, it WILL make a difference. You’ll feel less irritated by others – their negative energy will just bounce off of you – and you’ll feel a whole lot better in your own vibration. But it’s like brushing your teeth; you have to do it every day.
Try this simple 5-minute technique: Stand tall, arms at your side, and envision a big, brilliant golden sun right over the top of your head. Next, imagine that you are encased in a strong, vibrant shell of midnight blue energy. It surrounds your whole body from head to toe, and arcs up over that beautiful golden sun. Hold the image of the blue vibration surrounding your body for as long as you can. Then, see the golden sun send down rays of sparkling golden light all through your body, all the way down to your toes and then back up. Feel the warmth of the golden energy, and notice that as that gold vibration surges through your entire body, the blue force field surrounding your aura grows stronger and brighter, shielding you and keeping you safe and strong.
2. Surround yourself with inspiration.
Until I got a job with an office of my own, I spent years in cubicles. So I’d have something to look at other than my computer screen, I tacked images on the particleboard of places I was dreaming of visiting. At one particular job, I remember looking at this picture of Gaudi’s La Pedrera every single day for months on end. A couple of years later, when I was relieved of my shackles, I found myself standing on a street in Barcelona, looking at La Pedrera. It was the same time of day and at the same angle as that in the picture on my desk. I realized I’d taken that photo and brought it into my reality. It was one of the most magical moments of my life. If it worked for me, it can – and will – work for you.
3. Be true to who you really are.
The workplace is about conformity. If you dress like everyone else, you’ll fit in, which ensures your success at work. But at what expense? I have clients who feel like they transform into these completely different people when they’re at work, giving up their favorite jeans and casual tops for uncomfortable ensembles that don’t reflect who they really are. If you feel like you’ve gone overboard to fit in, take a step back, re-assess, and then course correct. I’m not advising you to do a complete 180, but if you are in any way unhappy with the way you’ve started dressing for work, do everything in your power to change it.
Some people I’ve worked with have found that placing certain crystals and stones on their desks help them feel grounded at work. Black tourmaline deflects negative energy, and rose quartz emits a vibration of love. Others are inspired by amethyst. If stones are your thing, buy some that you feel will help get you through the work day.
One client of mine worked at a place where everyone on her team went out for lunch every day. She knew that if she joined them, she’d be investing her lunch break into the company, too (even though she liked her co-workers) and not spending time by herself, which is something she really loved to do. So she politely declined, and spent her lunch break running errands and working on her book, which she has since published.
4. Don’t Buy into Other People’s Drama.
The workplace is rife with drama. It’s like this giant stew of emotions, vibrations, and energies from people who might not necessarily choose each other in a line-up of people they’d want to share more time with than their own friends and family. If you’re sensitive, this can be horrific. This idea is as old as the hills, but if you keep to yourself, and don’t fall into other people’s drama, you will feel better and will be able to cope with your workplace much more easily. If you stay neutral, you’ll be less affected – it’s a fact. The minute you start to care too much, you get sucked in, and then you’re riding on someone else’s rollercoaster, much to your detriment. Stay out of drama. Mind your own business. And also – spend good time figuring out who your true friends are. In most cases, it’ll only be one or two people out of 10 or 100 co-workers.
5. Hate what you do? Hatch your escape plan.
Remember that movie, Shawshank Redemption? The guy freaking dug a tunnel out of his prison cell. Took him years to do it, but he finally got his freedom. You can do this, too. If you have a dream, infuse it with life and make it happen. You’re the only one who can. It’s now or never. Do you want to be having your retirement party in the breakroom when you’re 68? If not, get to work. Go to another company. Quit your full time job and take on two part-time jobs. Get up at 5am to work on your dream (like many successful writers have done). Or take a risk and just launch your own business. Do whatever it takes. Invest in yourself.
I hope these ideas help! Do you consider yourself to be a sensitive person? If so, how do you cope at work?