If People Aren’t Treating You the Way You Want to be Treated…

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Happy ALMOST New Year!!!!!

2016 is just about all wrapped up and this is a great time to take stock, reflect, and focus on what you want to create in 2017.

And with all the family get-togethers that tend to happen over the holidays, I thought it would be apropos to have a bookcase chat about when people in your life aren’t treating you the way you want to be treated. Maybe they’re not returning phone calls or texts, or aren’t showing up for you in one form or another. Or perhaps they’re not hearing you, or connecting with you, or giving you the respect you deserve. Whatever the case is, reframing the way you think about the situation will definitely help.
The most useful and proactive thing to do when you start to feel badly about the way someone is acting is to take a few steps back and look at their life objectively, asking yourself questions like:

What is going on with them right now?

What types of things happened in their past that could cause them to act like this now?

Is there something else that is possibly going on that you aren’t aware of? 

Are other people perhaps noticing the same type of behavior?

This type of thoughtful, neutral, compassionate probing will help you to see the situation with a new sense of clarity, so you hopefully don’t take it so personally (which is what causes pain).

If you can process it all, you will probably notice some themes happening with that person, and be able to realize that it’s not all about you, and you can then choose to talk to them, or to wait it out from a place of love and see what happens.

Another thing that came up as I was thinking about this topic is when you notice that A LOT of people in your life seem to be treating you a certain way that you dislike. And in that case, you can do the same thing I mentioned above, and take it a step further by really looking at yourself and noticing what these behaviors are saying about YOU and how you might need to heal and make big changes in your life. This could mark the need to end a powerful cycle or pattern, to create a shift so that you can continue to evolve and grow at a higher vibrational level.

Whatever the case may be, if you look at the situation as neutrally as possible, you’ll remove the drama and suffering that comes from hurt feelings, which will help you get through it all the more easily.

Everyone acts oddly at some point or another, and patience, compassion, and love for yourself and for other people will absolutely help transform and heal the situation.