A lot of people who come to see me are stuck in a rut. They want to get from HERE to THERE, but THERE seems so out of reach that they just don’t see how they can make it happen.
I recently met with a woman who’d been at the same dull, boring job for 10 years, completely unfulfilled and grossly underpaid. She was approaching 40, and she wanted to know what her purpose was. Together, we agreed on the big picture her heart was longing for, and then I intuited the concrete steps she needed to take to get there. It was clear that if she did take these steps, it would be scary, but that in the long run, it would be totally worth it. It was also clear that she hadn’t taken any steps because she was comfortable and she hated taking risks. She was living life according to the proverb, “Better the Devil you know than the Devil you don’t.” Many of us will stick with what’s safe, even if it’s not perfect, because at least we know what to expect.
At the other end of the spectrum is a client who emigrated to the US years ago and worked for a large company as an engineer before taking the risk to start his own business. He worked hard, not always loving it, and was fulfilled in that his business was a success, but this wasn’t his dream: what his heart and soul wanted was to sail, full time. Sailing was his passion. He poured years and years of work into his company and sailed on the weekends. As the business became more profitable, he started taking longer and longer trips. Finally, he was able to sell the company and take off on a ten-year round the world voyage. He didn’t worry profusely about how he was going to make his dream happen: he just did it one day at a time and never gave up on it.
It’s ridiculously simple, but the truth is we need to take steps toward our dreams if we want them to come true. Our minds can instantaneously formulate the outcome we desire, but we need to stay in that zone to make it happen, and not slump back into the “but-my-life-is-nothing-like-that-now-so-why-or- how-is-it-ever-going-to-change” type of vibration. Vision boards, lists of our goals, and dreamscapes (where you repeat the same vision, with emotions, in your mind over and over again) can help your mind stay on track so that you’re in the mode of creating your desired reality. Certain energetic techniques like those offered in my Manifesting course through Daily OM can really help release blocks and resistance, too. But ultimately, it’s the concrete daily actions you’re taking NOW that will help you get closer to the outcome you desire. If you want to start a business, get a domain name and register it. Formulate a simple business plan, work on a website, and make it happen. If you want to lose weight, find what works for you, create a plan, and stick to it. The same with a new job, car, home, and a plan that will help you meet that special someone. A basic system that I’ve found to be effective is this:
1. Do thorough research to find out what it is you really want
2. Formulate, in writing, your ultimate dream
3. Write out your 10 year, 7 year, 5 year, 3 year, and 1 year goals
4. Decide what you can do THIS YEAR to reach your 1 year goal
5. Create daily and weekly goals and reward yourself for meeting them
6. Infuse your brain with positive imagery that supports your goal; create the vision boards, do the affirmations, work on energetic techniques
7. Surround yourself with positive people who support you and your dreams
8. Don’t give up.
A few books that have helped me get out of the many ruts I’ve fallen into over the years are The Answer by John Assaraf, Freeing the Genie Within by Debra Katz, and Soul Coaching by Denise Linn. If you force yourself to get on the road from here to there, you CAN make it happen. It just takes courage, commitment, and faith in yourself. Easier said than done, right? But believe me, it really is possible. I’ve worked with people who have literally transformed their lives. It never would have happened if they hadn’t taken that first step.