5 Things You Can Do to Gain More Freedom


Freedom is an elusive thing. Our spirit – this essence of who we are – is free, but has incarnated into a body that is limited by space, time, and regular old everyday life circumstances. Practically speaking, for the most part, we all have a degree of freedom in our lives. But just how free are you? And how free do you want to be? How free can you let yourself be? If you’re feeling like the perceived lack of freedom is dragging you down, here are 5 things to do that might help you get out those shackles.

1. Wake up! and determine HOW you want to be more free.

Freedom comes in levels and layers, in different areas of your life. What area are you craving more freedom in? Is it your work? Love life? Living situation? Buying power? Once you figure out what area needs to shift, you can get started. If the corporation you work for feels like prison, and you know that working for yourself will be better, start laying the groundwork for that to happen. If your in-laws who live next door are driving you nuts, and you know that moving will help you get out from under their thumb, then move. Sick of your schedule? Change it! You’re a grownup.

2. Stop playing the blame game.

A lot of us make up all kinds of reasons as to how or why we can’t do something. It’s often easier to just blame factors like a difficult past, a tough economy, or a hairy relationship than to actually make a shift. My client John is in his 60’s. He’s wanted to move to Thailand for years now, and everything in his heart and soul is telling him this will be SO good for him. But he’s stuck, and says he can’t because his wife (who is Thai) won’t let him. Rather than talk to her about it, he just sits there in the house he hates feeling more and more angry and resentful. If he stopped blaming her and other factors in his life, he could actually make progress towards the freedom he so desperately craves.

3. Do something different. Do a lot of things different.

Get up earlier – or later. Drive a different way to work. Go to a different grocery store. Buy different foods. Try a new routine for a bit. Read a new book or magazine, listen to new music, watch new TV shows. The more you try different things, the more you shake yourself up and give your spirit, which always knows what’s best for you, some room to start influencing your life. My teacher Sonia Choquette taught me this, and it really works.

4. Go Back to Your Childhood.

What did you love to do as a kid? What could you just spend hours and hours at? Write down everything you loved, and then see if you can get back into that, or something similar. If you loved to play outside, go play outside. If you loved combing Barbie hair, go buy a couple of Barbies and have at it. Same with building things, coloring, drawing, dancing, playing karate, etc. It might sound silly, but even a small measure of doing something you used to love frees your spirit up a little. It’s about being playful. The more playful you are, the more your imagination gets to get involved in your life. And guess what? Freedom and imagination are totally on the same wavelength. Your imagination is an expression of your spirit. Don’t underestimate it’s importance.

5. Say Yes – and NO.

Start saying yes to the things you love and the things you want to do, and no to the things you don’t. Say yes and no to the people who ask for your time and energy. Take a stand, and respect your needs. The more you do this, the better you get at it, and each choice you have to make will bring you closer to the freedom you want.

Tell me! What areas do you want more freedom in in your life? What can you do to make a change?