I am very good at reading someone’s character in a session (i.e. Mary will ask about Mark, and I will right away be able to tell her if he is decent or if he’s a scumbag). In person, though, in my own life, I have to work at things, because my ego gets all wrapped up in relationships and I can’t tell whether or not I’m being super clear about how I’m seeing people and situations.
Looking back over the years, I can tell you a few very interesting things that came up right away when I met certain people. I remember meeting one dear friend and just knowing instantly that I loved this person and knew her “from before.” On the flip side, one of THE MOST telltale warning signs that has worked best for me is if someone has the look of “crazy” in their eyes. I know that look, I have seen that look, and when I see it, it’s time to run. Aside from that, though, I get lazy when it comes to inviting people into my life, or figuring out what the deal is between us. That’s not good, because it can lead to problems. You’d think that with all these years of learning how to be psychic under my belt, I’d be a little more discerning with people, right? Well, you’d be correct, and I am working harder now to read people’s motives and understand their personalities before I decide to work with them, or be friends with them. As for family, you can’t change them, but you can figure out why they act the way they do and not blame yourself. More on family in another post.
That little diatribe aside, you don’t have to spend years and years learning how to develop your psychic/intuitive abilities in order to read someone’s energy. You can pretty much figure it out in a few different ways. Here are 3 of the easiest:
1. Look into their eyes.
Yes, it’s true: the eyes are the window to the soul. But you can really easily develop a way to read someone by checking out their eyes. Do they look truthful and sincere? Or is there a hint of wickedness? I remember a job interview I had ages ago, and one moment in which the woman got a weird look to her eyes. She crinkled them up and looked at me oddly. She was normal enough I guess, but a horrible person to work with/for – she buttered up the higher-ups, and then gossiped, spread rumors, and became BFFs with the HR ladies, establishing a sense of court-like hierarchy for herself. I probably shouldn’t have accepted that job offer but hey, live and learn.
2. Notice how YOU feel in their presence.
If you are reading this, you are probably a sensitive, intuitive person anyway. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t care about this type of subject, right? So this is going to be SUPER easy for you. Just do a gut-check and see how you feel around someone. If you feel depressed, anxious, or uneasy in any way, and you didn’t feel like that before you were around that person, there’s your clue. Either they are having a bad day or are in a bad mood, OR they just have stinky energy. If you’d like, give them another chance and see how they are the next time you are around them, and you’ll be able to tell from there.
3. Look at what they’re wearing, watch their body language, and, above all else, LISTEN to what they are saying.
While it is true that beauty is only skin deep, people will show you a lot about who they are by how they dress, how they carry themselves, and, most importantly, by what they talk about. For example, if you know someone who is always complaining, or who gossips or speaks ill of other people, chances are they’ll gossip about you, too. And who needs THAT?
You can play a little game with yourself where you notice what people are wearing, how they are acting, and what they’re saying, and then make up a narrative about who they are; like a little story. This is not about snooping or getting into someone’s business – this is a valuable exercise that will help you discern whether or not certain people will be good for you to engage with.
It is wonderful to give people the benefit of the doubt, to look past appearances and see the gem of a soul within, but sometimes you really have to be clean and clear about who people are, and have boundaries regarding who you let into your life. Respect yourself and your energy, and practice reading people before you get involved with them!
For more info on how to do readings, check out Activate Your Psychic Super Powers, the program my friend Debra Lynne Katz and I developed, which is based on her book, You are Psychic: The Art of Clairvoyant Reading and Healing. It leads you through doing a reading in an easy, step-by-step method over the course of 8 weeks.